Hey there well first of all welcome to the site and to the coming out group. As for Who should you come out to first? Well it really depends are you absolutely ready remember you dont need to rush in coming out to anyone or everyone take your time.

Or maybe you maybe thinking if I dont come out now or soon I probably will stay closeted forever. I understand everyone has these thoughts and many can be scared to come out because of rejection and hatred. But sometimes you have to do things to make you feel better about yourself and to start living your real life.

So I think the first person to come out too is someone who you trust and believe will be open minded and accepting.

For example I first came out to my therapist who I felt I trusted and they helped me and talked to me so I could then come out to others. But if you dont have a therapist maybe a very close friend. I think a friend who is a girl because girls tend to be more open minded then guys but its up to you.

Maybe tell that friend can I tell you something personal and take them aside somewhere private so others dont just show up or listen in. Then say something like first of all this may shock you but this is who I'am I hope you understand and hope you still will be my friend. -------Pause a bit--------[ Just in case they say something then tell them ] Well I wanted to tell you that I'am Gay. Then hopefully their reaction is a good one.

Well its what I did when I came out to my first family member my cousin and my sister and it went well. But again its up to you what you want to say or do.

As for like you said you think your parent's they'll be accepting well that's a bit risky but if you feel you can tell them then you should do it. As for not being that close to them you have to face them sooner or later you have to take that risk.

But you do understand in coming out their is always risk's like there's a chance friendships can be lost. And it will spread and people might treat you badly. But make sure you have some sort of plan. If you are still in school check if there is a LGBT group you could join. Or check if there is a LGBT community center near or in your town or city you could visit they can help too.

But what ever you plan to do good luck and I hope this advice helps you and sorry for writing so much take care.

I would agree with Analu. I wish I had someone there when I came out. I would also say don't surpress who you really are because I tried and it caused me a lot of pain and grief. I got married when I was 20 and now at 26, just divorced. I feel bad for my ex-wife for "trying" to be straight and it has been emotionally hard. Also, I am Catholic and was raised that way and feel most comfortable in that sense as that is what I have known all my life. My parents are strict catholics and I have yet to tell them that I am gay. Hopefully in your case everything goes well. I am still mustering up enough courage to tell my parents and wish you the very best. There may be a time and a place to tell your parents and you likely will know when that time comes. As a suggestion, rather than just go to your parents and say this is how I am, possibly let the opportunity present itself when the time is right, as that might be easier on both of you.