The only one who can answer if your gay is you, try being with a woman and see if it makes you happy, sexually and emotionally.

The problem for some is that they try to fit themselves into what they believe a label describes. Human sexuality is not a switch set to gay or straight, but is a varied and broad spectrum. Have you thought that perhaps you are not on the spectrum strictly attributed to "gay"?

Perhaps you are a little bisexual? Or even heterocurious? Want to know what is even more surprising? That is okay! Human sexuality is not something to be controlled or steered. It is an innate aspect of a person governed by hormones, body chemistry and emotions. You didn't turn gay, no matter what your mother suggests. It doesn't work that way. That is not to say that your original self identity was correct.

Just to be safe, please do not allow your mother to project her own insecurities on to you. While a former boyfriend may have broken your heart, he didn't break your sexual orientation. No matter how well intentioned your mother may have been, please don't take her notion to heart.

If you suddenly find yourself attracted to a guy, by all means explore it. Same for a girl. If you are unsure of where you are on the sexual spectrum, then why cram yourself into a label? Just make healthy decisions and try to enjoy your process of self discovery.

I agree with joe42909. I also have been attracted to women and it took my girlfriend and I to get together to realize I am very comfortable being with a woman. Don't try and label yourself as gay or not. Explore all aspects of your own sexuality. Open yourself up to new experiences in life. I felt much better after I did that. I think you will too. You are who you are. Live without labels and you'll be able to make better decisions.

If you have memories of being attracted to women all your life I think it's highly unlikely that anyone turned you. I dont really believe you can suddenly turn gay. I think it's more about self-discovery and self-acceptance/awareness. I think that you know the answer, even if it's deep down. All you have to do is answer the question. Push the 'but' and 'if' and 'maybe' aside and just tell yourself what you feel.

I had absolutely no idea that I was gay until about the age of 22. Up until then, I dated men and never really had any issues. It was never anything too serious, but once I realized I was gay, I looked back, and am actually quite shocked that I truly had no clue. All my friends were girls, and I managed to get quite close to several of them. I also don't have a sex drive (asexual), so it makes some sense, but it's still pretty crazy if I think about it.

I did have one relationship right before I realized that I was gay that was pretty traumatic. I often wonder myself if I "turned" because of that, but I try not to dwell on it. I agree with john12as. Only you can answer whether or not you are gay. If you find yourself able to have feelings for both men and women, you may be bisexual. You have to live your life as YOU in order to figure out who YOU are. I am 25, going on 26, and I am still learning about who I am.

You can suddenly realize/ accept that you are gay/bi/trans whatever the case, but I don't think you can suddenly turn that way. There were usually repressed feelings along the way.

Self discovery is a lifelong quest, it is always evolving. Labels are for other people to "organize" where they think you fit in their "world view". The only label you should worry about is "insert your name here"! Be yourself, no one else can.

I am struggling a little with this myself, accepting yourself. I think it is wise to "come out" to yourself before trying to come out to others.

In direct answer to your question, yes.

First of all, this is what you need to think of when it comes to attractions. This is pretty blunt, but when you're "pleasuring" yourself, do you think of men or women?? That's really all there is to it... As a gay man, I know it can be confusing when you're trying to figure this all out. You have all the pressures of family and society telling you what you "should" be, and what's "normal" etc...

In reality, the only normal thing is that we're all different. Therefore she should be ourselves, and that takes time to find out, and each person needs to do this. Anyways, I don't' really think there's not way you can "turn" gay suddenly...You either have the attractions or you don't. Sure the first time you realize you have them you might think this but it doesn't sound like it. I 've gone back and fourth many times in my younger years, and sometimes still, if i am actually attracted to women or not. Do I think women are beautiful, YES!! There are plenty of hot women and men out there. HOWEVER...I am emotionally, and physically attracted to men. There have been times where I get jealous, even though i'm not typically a jealous person, when i see a guy I like, getting hit on by other ppl. That is what apart of being gay is, you experience all of these emotions that typically come with being attracted to someone.

Hope this helps.

T