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Bi or Lesbian???

farmgirl23
farmgirl23
The past couple of years I've started to question my sexuality. At first I thought I might be bisexual but I wasn't sure due to the fact I've had no relationship experience with men or women. Recently I was setup with a guy and we've been talking but I don't feel attracted to him in any way. In the last few months I've been trying to figure out if I'm actually a Lesbian rather than bisexual but I've always thought I would be able to have romantic feelings towards males. I'm not basing this latest questioning on this brief setup experiance alone. More and more I've been realizing I can't really picture a life or a relationship with a guy but I can easily and happily with a girl. Most people will tell you, or I read online, best way to find out is through experience. It's not so easy done as said because I live in a town of 600 and don't go to the city that often. I don't know anybody who's gone through similar experiances to be able to talk to. So far the only person I've admitted my questioning to is my sister, who has been totally supportive. I guess the reason I'm posting this is because I'm looking for some light to be shed on my situation or someone to offer advice on where I can get help figuring all this stuff out. As far as I know there are no local LGBT support groups of any kind close to where I live. (sorry for this being so long)
newtothis4
newtothis4
You are def in the right place to make friends going through the same things. so many great people on here that can help. I was married for almost 10 years to a man and that whole time, I had always thought I was different and I could always see myself with a woman. however, it took just the right woman to help me see that I was not happy and get the guts to finally come out to myself and to everyone else. So you have to think about what makes you happy, then decide if you are ready to take control of your life and make your own happiness. Good luck and don't be afraid to ask questions here! Everyone is awesome here!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi I read your post and wanted to welcome you and tell you that I support you 100%. I went through a similar experience. I am Bisexual but most of my life I have lived as a straight heterosexual woman. When I came out it was new and scary but wonderful all at the same time. I am still coming out to some of the people in my life but I have had enough experience coming out some reactions were positive and some were negative.

I am always here if you want to talk or be friends I think we have a lot in common. You came to the right place. I have a group called vow to live LGBT against suicide that you might want to join on ds there is support there to. I am an administrator for that group. Don't be in a rush to label yourself ok. Just be yourself and let things happen naturally you will know when the time is right what your sexual orientation is .

Be honest with yourself and others about how you feel and what your expectations are. Best wishes
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi there, I'm brand new here and I know exactly what you are going through... it is such a confusing thing isn't it??? I can't tell you what to do, only that there are Definitely others out there that feel the same way you do and that you should try to explore this side of yourself if at all possible. I'm always here to commiserate about this with! LOL
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi, I've just read your post and am in a similar position to you. Since high school I've not thought about my sexual identity, however for the past 12 months have been conflicted. I have had a couple of relationships with men, and have never felt completely fulfilled by them. More recently I haven't been sexually attracted to men, and when I think about future relationships I can't determine what feels right for myself. I've had sexual encounters with women, however never been involved in a relationship with a woman. I find it entirely confusing to think about at times to the point of depression. My friends tell me that I'm placing too much value on my sexual orientation and that I probably just love who I love. This doesn't feel right to me either. From someone who knows how confusing it can be, I'm here If you need support!
borikenuno
borikenuno
I also asked myself this question long ago. I thought I was bi too. Are you familiar with the Kinsey Scale? If not Google it. Perhaps you're somewhere in one of the grey areas. I am. I'm predominately gay but incidentally straight. Maybe this fits you or maybe the inverse is true. Sexuality is more fluid for most people.

I encourage you to move on! If possible, move to a big city for at least a while. Date frequently and get to know your sexuality and know yourself. The question you posed can't be answered in a town of 600. You're among friends. We're here for you during the journey.Good luck.