College Stress Support Group

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Introductions in College

rainBowsLoveMe
rainBowsLoveMe
So I will be moving into college in about a week and a half and I'm a bit nervous about introducing myself to new people. Some I have already gotten to know a bit because of FB. (Our grad. class has a FB page) The rest I won't know at all. I'll be moving into a Dorm that's primarily all guys and upperclassmen also lol The most up side is that I'm on an all girls floor. I don't know anything about my roommate except her name. I don't have any way of reaching her except her home phone, which I won't call......lol I have one joke that I'm going to use as an ice breaker for when I meet people. It's super cheesy, but I'm primarily bad when it comes to small talk. I just need a bit of a confidence boost that's all.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Trying to transition into college can be stressful as well as meeting new people. I knew nothing about my roommate also when I went away to college except her name and where she was from. When I first got there, I was pretty nervous (luckily I had some friends back home that were in the same dorm but on different levels) but the girls on my floor were very nice and welcoming. In fact, my roommate was in her 3rd year at the college so she was able to help me with finding my classes and teaching me new things about the campus. One key element to keep in mind is to just be open with others. Don't go and hide in the room all day because then you won't get to meet the girls on your floor. One thing that was neat about my dorm level is we had weekly meetings and so everybody met everybody living on the same level and they even had game nights or trivia nights, so attending those types of events can allow you to meet a bunch of people and get to know them! Hope this helps!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Remember that everyone is feeling the exact same thing. (I pretty much facebook stalked my dormmates ahead of time). I felt exactly like you a couple of years ago (right down to the cheesy icebreaker joke)!
At my school we were forced into a bunch of icebreaking exercises that will be super lame and awkward but you can all bond over how super lame and awkward they are.
You'll do great!
deleted_user
deleted_user
My best recommendation is smile really big and compliment people. This instantly gets a conversation going. It also can help you find common ground. This girl I make small talk with looks like Emily from Pretty Little Liars. I instantly told her that because I thought she was so pretty and most girls love that show (like I do!) so we started basically bonding over the show and talking about our favorite episodes. I wouldn't use the same joke as an ice breaker, it's best to just keep it simple. Don't try to be the coolest, funniest person in the room. Just show people you're a warm and compassionate person, and you'll have their interest. Works for me every time. I know how stressful it can be to make friends in college, and I used to be very very shy. You just have to force yourself to step out of your comfort zone. Let your desire to meet people be greater than your fear of meeting people.