I would stop worrying about that guy and worry
About yourself and stay away from him.

Most often We ignore our gut until it is screaming
in our ear And even then we can and will ignore it.
That is you instinct talking to you.

My ex has traits and old addiction issues, is he a
PD narc i am not a therapist. They are the only ones
That can diagnose them. I can't and neither can you.

We as codependents need To heal our own wounds
so we do not find another unhealthy one whether its a
Narc, addict, emotionally unavailable its just a different
flavor than the last one.

Codependents are narc target group, HUGS

If he is your "EX' no need to think about him any longer....wondering what is causing you to continue? Hanging on to someone who is no longer in your life is not a healthy boundary for your wellbeing...Giving away You Controlling Your life by worry/wondering about the other person. Like mrandac said, concern your self with You :)

Thank you all <3 ...but why no one answered my quiestion???
please....i just want to know...if you know some narcisist who has friends?
and i know i need to stop thinking about him...but it hard for me ....i always think maybe i did mastake...

I did not answer because i think you are
Trying very hard to rationalize what he has
done so you can go try to get back with him.

As i said i am not a therapist my ex has traits
Only and he has a lot of friends. Many narcs
Do i think more like admirers, HUGS

Okay tell us about yourself, What was your
Upbringing like? Do you think of yourself as
A codie or is that your therapist? You sound very
Upset about this guy of only two months. HUGS

I try not to go to the place of trying to dx, rather go by my feelings...does this person make me 'feel' happy, cared for, supportive. Is there respect for me, my opinions, or is there criticism. Try to let go of what You Think, and ask questions of yourself about feeling empowered or weak by the relationship. Best, ml

I am not a therapist either but I believe like most other things that there is a spectrum of narcissism and codependence, addiction, autism, obsessive-compulsive disorder, schizophrenia. Few things are black and white in the world and most have many varying shades of grey. Yes, probably people with narcissistic traits, even diagnoses, can have friends and be functional, or at least APPEAR to have friends and be functional. But listen to the others posting here, focusing on someone else, especially an ex with a history of manipulation, is not what you need to be doing. You will need to focus on feeling and trusting your own feelings so that there will not be doubt in the future about the intentions of the people whom you make intimate contacts. You will need to become familiar with you, your needs, likes and dislikes, (to learn to be kind, respectful and loving to yourself), in order to learn what it takes to have a healthy, kind, respectful, loving relationship with anyone else and to be able to discern when things are not healthy.

Narcissists can be fun and charming, attracting friends. It's just that the friends are serving the narcissist in some way. Some of the friends can even be "flying monkeys."

They can also be in long relationships, although you can be certain their partners are suffering.