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YES this is pain and harassment for being nice and helping. LESSON Learnt
This is the low he(Ex) can go.
He has now 2 civil complaints against me so far on car and money i owe him and car again.
I recently got sued in Civil court for 50k because he harassed me before and said hes gonna put my nude pics on you tube if i didnt give 20k.. Anyways out of embarrassed and harassment i said okay fine i will give u money and based on that email he sued me in court.
10 k apparently he owed me he was transferring that to me but he is showing the proof to court that i owe him because he lent me by word of mouth. Mind it we were just boyfriend and girlfriend. Thank god i wasn't married to this man.
Another 10k i have helped him with car as he didn't have credit and therefore since he did payments he needs that back. Doesn't make sense if he has car why i owe him that money.
I fear of uncertainty a little even though i have proofs and everything
Yet i have to do what i have to do. Collecting all info and presenting it to court.
Ex has 3 criminal charges pending ( Bad checks, Criminal trespassing and Caught on drugs) out of which one was criminal trespassing where he broke my door and has second degree felony charges and i am not ready to drop or reduce those charges. He has a Protection from abuse that i got it for one year against him.
He didnt have credit and he gave me 20000?, he didnt have a job and he lived all the time on States money and his ex-wifes child support money and helped him everytime and now hes suing me for it. Wonder how disgusting can they be.
Now i feel i should have called cops Sept itself for harassment of my nude pics online, anyways documenting it and letting officials be aware. Sucks to be codependent and believe that world is with good people and doing good will only bring me good.
This is the low he(Ex) can go.
He has now 2 civil complaints against me so far on car and money i owe him and car again.
I recently got sued in Civil court for 50k because he harassed me before and said hes gonna put my nude pics on you tube if i didnt give 20k.. Anyways out of embarrassed and harassment i said okay fine i will give u money and based on that email he sued me in court.
10 k apparently he owed me he was transferring that to me but he is showing the proof to court that i owe him because he lent me by word of mouth. Mind it we were just boyfriend and girlfriend. Thank god i wasn't married to this man.
Another 10k i have helped him with car as he didn't have credit and therefore since he did payments he needs that back. Doesn't make sense if he has car why i owe him that money.
I fear of uncertainty a little even though i have proofs and everything
Yet i have to do what i have to do. Collecting all info and presenting it to court.
Ex has 3 criminal charges pending ( Bad checks, Criminal trespassing and Caught on drugs) out of which one was criminal trespassing where he broke my door and has second degree felony charges and i am not ready to drop or reduce those charges. He has a Protection from abuse that i got it for one year against him.
He didnt have credit and he gave me 20000?, he didnt have a job and he lived all the time on States money and his ex-wifes child support money and helped him everytime and now hes suing me for it. Wonder how disgusting can they be.
Now i feel i should have called cops Sept itself for harassment of my nude pics online, anyways documenting it and letting officials be aware. Sucks to be codependent and believe that world is with good people and doing good will only bring me good.
Not concerned. Left it to higher power. All i do now is prepare and work with my lawyer.
You are changing the things you can- doing the paperwork, collecting the info and presenting it to court, working with your lawyer. Do what you can and let the rest go.
It is an awfully hard lesson to learn though, and an awfully hard way to learn it... I am so glad to hear that you aren't dropping or reducing the charges, you really need to protect yourself in this situation, you obviously can't just assume that he will do 'the right thing' on his own. Do what you need to do to protect yourself from this man and once you are through all of this, you can move on and consider it as 'lesson well and truly learnt'!
Wishing you all the best with this and my thoughts are with you.
So true, how the Serenity Prayer does fit. I say that prayer several times a day. It is so therapeutic. Stay strong. We are here for you.