Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
Hi all
This is how i am. I am in a healthy relationship and i just wanted to know it is still healthy to question and work out, is this for me? Is this what i want, or how would i like things? Recovery is focusing on ourselves! and i think it is healthy to question ourselves, because then we are trying to work out the answers by the way we live and do things. I think im doing well in terms of working things out, even though it is a slow process.
Yesterday i went swimming after work, cus just sitting at home makes me think about all my difficulties and problems. i did 50 lengths. I have read that codependants sometimes keep busy so they dont face things, but i dont think i was doing this, i just had to do something that made me feel good. I am going to do the same today i think, its made me brighter and more positive!
This is how i am. I am in a healthy relationship and i just wanted to know it is still healthy to question and work out, is this for me? Is this what i want, or how would i like things? Recovery is focusing on ourselves! and i think it is healthy to question ourselves, because then we are trying to work out the answers by the way we live and do things. I think im doing well in terms of working things out, even though it is a slow process.
Yesterday i went swimming after work, cus just sitting at home makes me think about all my difficulties and problems. i did 50 lengths. I have read that codependants sometimes keep busy so they dont face things, but i dont think i was doing this, i just had to do something that made me feel good. I am going to do the same today i think, its made me brighter and more positive!
You're doing great! Keep it up! It's the healthiest "addiction" there is!
I am finding that a lot of "advice", "self-help" literature not only has conflicting messages (e.g. "Keep busy and focus on yourself! But feel your feelings, don't use activity to drown things out!" WTF?) but you can seriously drive yourself BATTY second-guessing and questioning your every thought and every move. If we're not to stay busy and work on ourselves and the things within our control to improve ourselves, then what are we supposed to do? Drown in our own thoughts and in our own heads? Being "too much inside one's own head" is something I am frequently guilty of, and believe me, it offers more conflict and confusion than peace for me.
It sounds like what you did was HEALTHY and positive - good for you! Part of the recovery is learning to trust yourself and to trust you know what's good for you to care for yourself. In fact, you've inspired me to go to the gym today. :D Congratulations to you. :)