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My GF broke up w/me Dec 7, 2012. We've crossed lines several times. She can say babe or want to see me or talk about sex but, the moment I do. She make sure it's clear she doesn't want to be w/me. Last Friday she sent me a letter making it so very clear. Since, then I did not contact her WHICH is HUGE for me.
I haven't been on FB because all our pic's are on there and I don't want to obsess over her page or whatever. So, yesterday I log'd on to update my PIC (I haven't been on since Dec). My friend posted something and she like'd it and before I saw that I commented on the psot. I'm sure she knew I did it and we'll I can't stop thinking of her. Ironically, she is having surgery on the 15th. We planned this w/the DR together but, she has new friends now and when I asked her if she wanted to come here, our home (out of work for 6 weeks) she says we'll Id want to see my friends. This hurt because that was never a worry when we were together. but, of course I said they can visit.
I'm all over the place w/this post. Her Mom called me yesterday and said my EX asked her to call me to see if she could stay here for the 2days she'll be in the hospital. I said of course. She wanted to me to call my EX but I said I'm not comfortable. So anyways tonight I called her Mom she was depressed. So, I broke down and TEXT my EX. I'm worried about your MOM. She thanked me and replied I'm mad at my brother. ( he moved & said he'd take care of her). I didn't reply but now I can't stop thinking about textin or calling but, I'm more hurt that she said we lost eachother along time ago and want different things. I can't get this out of my mind. I want to TEXT but I can't :(
I haven't been on FB because all our pic's are on there and I don't want to obsess over her page or whatever. So, yesterday I log'd on to update my PIC (I haven't been on since Dec). My friend posted something and she like'd it and before I saw that I commented on the psot. I'm sure she knew I did it and we'll I can't stop thinking of her. Ironically, she is having surgery on the 15th. We planned this w/the DR together but, she has new friends now and when I asked her if she wanted to come here, our home (out of work for 6 weeks) she says we'll Id want to see my friends. This hurt because that was never a worry when we were together. but, of course I said they can visit.
I'm all over the place w/this post. Her Mom called me yesterday and said my EX asked her to call me to see if she could stay here for the 2days she'll be in the hospital. I said of course. She wanted to me to call my EX but I said I'm not comfortable. So anyways tonight I called her Mom she was depressed. So, I broke down and TEXT my EX. I'm worried about your MOM. She thanked me and replied I'm mad at my brother. ( he moved & said he'd take care of her). I didn't reply but now I can't stop thinking about textin or calling but, I'm more hurt that she said we lost eachother along time ago and want different things. I can't get this out of my mind. I want to TEXT but I can't :(
Make a search for how to deal with a break up.
Michael Griswold helped me a lot.
There's also Alan Watts that might help you feel better and ease the pain.
Keep posting. You're not alone.
It isn't easy. Staying in contact makes it harder. You need to grieve so try to avoid numbing yourself if you can. I need to take my own advice.