Therapy. It can be many things. It depends on what you are feeling when you are alone. Emotionally healthy people, are just fine spending time by themselves. Unhealthy people are even lonely when they are with others.
Good Luck, God Bless

I actually do feel bad being alone, that is because the job I have is isolated and when I come home I have a noncommunicating son who stays in his room. Home is quiet, and I am alone most of the time. So I have to make home good. Music playing helps a lot. I don't have an animal but that would help also. When I am engaged in the garden or a cratt, time flies.
I do respect people who can spend time alone happily. I agree with pf123's post.

i can spend time alone. infact i generally feel safer alone. ive always been this way. i like spending time with people also. i dunno if i am emotionally healthy tho! but thanks pf123!

I agree, and I'm envious of people who can spend time alone. I do have periods of time when I enjoy that time, but not at the moment. SAD may play some part in it. The only problem is, often I still feel alone when I'm around others. It's like I'm trying to fill some void with I don't know what. This is an issue I've been talking to my therapist about, but I'm impatient and I want to feel better now!

It took me a long time to work through this problem. And it is a problem because it affects your quality of life, peace of mind and ability to have time for personal reflection. It also places huge demands on your family and friends (well it did in my instance).
It took therapy for me as well as gradual behaviour changes. I took challenges, ten minute solo walks, shopping trips, time at hm at night. I then we to a rehab in the country where I learnt to exist within a community as an individual - I continued the challenges there.
I am now able to live alone with my daughter (my partner and I have two homes now) and exist within my relationship but have my alone time and give my partner the space he needs and is entitled too.
I used to want to die if I were alone for anytime, now I love it and crave it!
It is possible!

i also wanted to add that keeping busy at first helps but eventualy you want to learn to 'just sit with being alone'. Coouring mandalas can be helpful, you forget your alone because you are concentrating so much! x

When I was young My Mom use to always say to me you need to learn to enjoy your own company. This is indeed a sign of codependent behavior. There are two types of co dependent behavoirs the helper and the abuser... this is helper behavior. This is me. what I found helps alot is a hobby that doesn't include anyone else. Something that makes me feel good about what I am doing and it doesn't need anyone else to be involved. Artistic, musical, Writing. Get that left side of your brain working harder.

Journaling will help you realize your codependent behavoir and give you the outsiders perspective to find those behavoirs yourself. A journal is alswy something that that is good because it is something that other generally don't even see. Therefore you can not ask for approval.

Make your self happy. Do something for you.

Hi.
I think you may have huge anxiety being by yourself. It may be that you have issues with who you are? If you are planning to be busy every second of every day, seems to me, like you are really scared of being by yourself. Perhaps by keeping busy, is the only coping mechanism that you know. If you dont feel comfortable in your own company, I think that their will be a logical reason why you dont. As you are on this site, I am guessing that growing up, was perhaps a painful experience. Sometimes when things get bad at home, you can remove yourself from yourself, if you can understand. This is a coping mechanism. I would try and find somewhere where you can do inner child healing. If that is you in the picture, you are beautiful, and always deserved to be loved. When you begin to love and understand who you are, both the roses and the thorns, life will be much brighter, and you will find peace in your heart. I am talking from my own personal experience. Have a look on healing your inner child websites. Joy to me is excellent
xx

I find that I do need some alone time; doesn't matter what kind it is, but some time to just be by myself. I have just learned that I need that time to regenerate and process stuff; my poor husband is trying very hard to understand and I get so mad when I say I am going to take a bubble bath, listen to some music and he walks in and asks if I need anything. I haven't the guts to say it makes me mad, but that is another whole subject. And then I find if I spend too much time alone, I get down. So there has to be a balance, I guess. No you are not alone. For those of us who are in this boat because of what someone else did to us, it leaves us to always wonder if what we desire is being selfish or healing; when in reality, it is natural. The hardest part of being alone and not doing a zillion things so you don't have to think (my speciality) is the simple fact that we have to like/love/care for that person we are alone with - ourselves.

I love spending time on my own. It took a long time for me to feel comfortable on my own but the more I get to know myself and like myself the easier it is. I am beginning to understand that being alone does not mean being lonely. I can be in a room full of people and feel lonely but I can be alone with myself for days and not feel lonely.

I'm in the same boat as you. I can spend time alone, but for whatever reason it doesn't do me any good. For my mental health I need to be around people, generally. At the office, I can get work done better when there are other people around. For me, this falls under depression, codependency, and anxiety.

I go upstairs every night and watch TV while my husband watches his shows downstairs. (we never agree on shows, but even if we did always get into an arguement). When the girls come home, they usually go upstairs into their rooms. Isn't that a close family!! It has been this way for some time and I wish it was not that way. I just feel better being by myself and should not feel that way.

I've always enjoyed my me time, but I find that if I have too much of it, I get bored and lonely.

I then usually try to do something that will lift my spirits like dance and sing to the top of my lungs (I'm sure my neighbors really enjoy this), read a book, do some cross stitching (this is somewhat cathartic for me), or search on the internet on a topic that interests me.

I understand the wanting to get through this NOW, but as with every problem....it will take some time. Good luck!

I escape to the peace and quiet of the closest book store. I read my books in the comfort of the book store's cafe. Nothing goes better with a good book than a hot latte or Chicken soup.

At home, there is no peace, no "me" time. The dog, the 14 year old, and the 4 year old follow me into nearly every room. I can't even escape to the bathroom without the 4 year-old following me in. In fact, last night, she tried to Lysol the toilet seat for me, but ended up spraying it with hairspray. Nothing says love like a sticky butt.

This is something I am tackling at the moment. I used to feel scared coming home because it was so confronting. This year I did not go anywhere for new years eve and enjoyed not doing anything only because that was a challenge. My thinking is what am I worth if I don't have X number of invites to go out. Truth is I am now a lonely person trying to find my way.