Sure. Any relationship can be co-dependent. It would be worth exploring with your therapist how you feel when she cancels or changes the time of your appointment. She probably has no idea that by asserting her needs to change a time, that it impacts you so deeply.

To me, it's very telling... Are you feeling rejection? Abandonment? Are you feeling unimportant? insignificant? Anxiety? Depressed? (Meltdown has many definitions)

What is this "triggering" for you when she cancels an appointment with you? Is this bringing up a bad memory? A pattern that you grew up with?

Meltdowns don't just happen. They are the result of an emotional experience, which is caused by an internal reaction to something, someone, some place. But we cannot keep avoiding people, places or things. Because we bring our issues with us. So I really recommend that you honestly discuss this with your therapist. Because you'll only get out of therapy what you put into it. If you're afraid of the "confrontation" -- tell her that, too.

Good Luck.

yes i agree i get dependent on therapist at times but it is also cause i need help and need to run a problem or several one by someone that i can trust. maybe a bit of both. i have been very disappointed before when someone cancelled with me cause i was storing up stuff that i desperately needed to talk about.