Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
The frustrating thing about being codependent, is knowing you've managed to get into another codependent relationship. All the signs are there. Knowing it's time to just walk away. Dealing with the conflict of it all is still challenging to me.
My friend, that I've only known 3 yrs. I thought of her as a good friend and we always manage to have fun no matter what's going on. However, she is very needy. Jealous of my friendships with other people and my sisters. She has depression issues and has a victim mentality. She constantly needs sympathy and attention. She was diagnosed with cancer 9 months ago. The mass was removed and treated. Plus she has a drug problem.
The cancer consumes her. I don't know how I'd feel in her situation but I'm confident I would not behave the way she is. I couldn't count the times she said "I have cancer". It's her crutch. Then there's always Something wrong. I'm not exaggerating. People have mentioned it because she post everything on social media.
Yesterday she sent a long txt to our other friend and me. She was very angry at us, pointing out everything she was mad about. Absurd and inaccurate accusations. Most of it sounded like a 13 year old girl. Then she threw in the cancer card. She resents us for not visiting her at the treatment center when she was receiving treatment 6 months ago. She chose a cancer center in another state (8 hrs round trip) she would go on Sunday and return home on Friday a total of 19 days of treatment. I work 50 hours a week Monday-Friday. I have a fiancé that travels and I only see on 3 nights a week. Plus I have children and other friends and family. Btw her own children, siblings and other friends didn't visit her either. Only her fiancé.
My other friend immediately replied in defense. I chose not to. I did feel relief after I calmed down because I need to remove her from my life and this is making it easier. However, Now I have anxiety because I HATE conflict. Plus I'm renting her house. As much as I hate to, I'm going to move and just cut all ties with her. Am I taking the right course of action?
Recovery. I find now dysfunctional people, abusers,
Bullies and emotional manipulators set my teeth on
Edge. I have strong boundaries but they are very hard
On my hard earned serenity and peace.
I work with the elderly and its not a walk in the park
There either. Since my divorce and attending alanon
I have a low tolerance level for crazy, anxiety, addiction,
And game playing. Most Stress triggers my anxiety neither
Thing is good or healthy for me.
So what i do is what you are doing make decisions
That are healthy and good for myself. No response
Is a good idea plus moving out is another great idea.
My mantra is self protect and self care and try to ween
Off the bad guys with good strong healthy boundaries.
They get tired of it after awhile, time takes time, HUGS
didn't bother me as much before. Many of them
Now i Just need to detach from to stay sane.
Some are fixers or dysfunctionals and my tolerance
Level Is low while i am trying to move forward and Be
emotionally healthy and whole.
Are you in any program i really don't remember.
Being Spiritual has saved me on every level. I am
very Strong spiritually because that part of me never
Got damaged it was just in remission and it needed
To come out to the light of day and i needed to learn
to trust God Or my higher power. I had forgotten i Even
had a soul, how sad is that?
Its my emotional side that is a real challenge and it
Takes tons of work to reparent and retrain myself and
my Thinking, feelings and emotions, i am at deeper
Place right now and there is a lot of grieving going
On, HUGS
group it was much needed and long overdue for
me in my own recovery.
I loved the three together therapy, alanon and
Divorce care. They worked well and kept me
Moving forward and toward the light. I went from
Rage to healthy anger and forgiveness.
I am not Religious only spiritual same principles.
i sometimes Go to church for the fellowship mostly.
I Just do not enjoy studying the bible and such. I Am
a very lapsed catholic, HUGS