Codependency Support Group

Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...

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mom-of-3
mom-of-3
I asked someone (a professional) for advice about my situation with my 16 year old addicted son and I know I sounded pathetic - worrying about this and that....and next thing I know I'm being told I'm a codependent. I am a newer member of al anon and I belong to a support group - no sponsor yet - but I thought I was doing okay. I know I'm a work in progress, like we all are, but how could I be so off base, thinking I am fine? Has anyone else experienced that?

Note: I am very new to living with someone with an addiction. I didn't grow up with it and have never been exposed to it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Codependency can be passed down from generation to generation. There are all kinds of dysfunctional family situations that can cause it, it isn't just an "alcoholic" problem.
mom-of-3
mom-of-3
Learn something new everyday - thanks
mgs1
mgs1
Sometimes it isn't easy to hear... we ARE part of the problem and we are standing in the way of our loved one's hitting bottom and getting better. Tough love is not easy, but it is the truest from of love.
Just like the addict saying and doing anything to justify their use, we say and do anything to justify our actions, but we are only kidding ourselves. And, sometimes it is very true... we are more sick than the addict...
mom-of-3
mom-of-3
One comment an al non member made the other night made an impact on me and I thought was very helpful. She said it took her a couple of years to really absorb the information she was getting from al anon. I guess I've been wanting to "fix" myself, too, but too fast. I know I need to be more patient and honest with myself and learn as much as I can from the veteran members.
deleted_user
deleted_user
"one day at a time" and the serenity prayer helped me immensely when i first began al anon.

"first things first" and "fake it til you make it"

all the al anon slogans have a knack for helping us no matter where we are in our journey.

do you have any al anon literature? "one day at a time in al anon" is fantastic as a daily reader.

welcome to the group! love yourself and forgive yourself.
you are on the right path!
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