Codependency Support Group

Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...

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gettingitstraight
gettingitstraight
i am not friends with her, but she posted some pretty strong emotions about things and i have seen her on here once since then, but not since i sent her a friend request but she did nothing, is anyone frieds with her that they can check to see if she is ok
deleted_user
deleted_user
agreed...i check back here everyday looking for something from her...i too sent her a friend request with no response...i have been worried about her since she posted that...
gettingitstraight
gettingitstraight
Java she posted in the depresstion forum to i put the same thing in there
deleted_user
deleted_user
please lmk if you hear anything...i have been worried every since the other night...
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi,

I have not heard anything, either.

Shar
hbgdaystar
hbgdaystar
Its okay to be empathetic about that person but its not okay to keep worrying about them...

Where are the boundaries for self?
deleted_user
deleted_user
hgbdaystar-i am new to all of this...worrying about someone who implied she was going to kill herself is part of who i am...i think it was john who pointed out that it took a long while for me/us to get here (codependency), it will take some time to un-do & re-learn...taking steps in the right direction does not mean it is going to happen overnight...if i had good boundaries for myself already i probably would not be on DS...
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am her friend.. I will check
gettingitstraight
gettingitstraight
Hbg my only question would be are we not allowed to worry about someone who makes statementss of self injury. I have my boundaries but that does not me i cant worry about othees
hbgdaystar
hbgdaystar
Gettingitstraight - I am in a pothole and worried about this person irresponsible, irrational choice whom i dont even know, to the extent that i forget my own problems... Isnt that codependency? What am i doing for recovery?

Lets even assume you should worry ... what are you getting out of it?
gettingitstraight
gettingitstraight
Hb o am taking care of myself i am not in a rut i have a trait of not wanting harm to come to anyone even self inflicted whether i know them or not. I along long time ago was in a dark place i know how it is. None of us have walked a mile in one anothers shoes so how do u know whats healthy for me or anyone really as they dont know for you
gettingitstraight
gettingitstraight
And i apologize if that sounds rude not my intention but i alao am not dwelling on things either just being a concerned person
hbgdaystar
hbgdaystar
I understand your concern but if you see dailystrength sites crisis hotline page
http://www.dailystrength.org/help/crisis-resources

What to do in a Crisis
If you have a medical emergency, call your doctor or 911 immediately.

If a member of our site is threatening to harm themselves or others, contact your local law enforcement authority.

Concerns should be brought to administrator of the site or call the authority or contact hotline. Shouldn't wait to act. As much as i have seen within 5-10 minutes somebody responded to her post... If she did what she said than we can do nothing. Yes its disturbing but i feel we have done all we have to and have to move on.

And no i did not take your reply as rude. I believe everybody has right to say what they want. If i have a problem i just dont respond.