Codependency Support Group

Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...

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ebeth35 02/07/2009

Hi there,
My hubby and I have been together about 10 years. Like any other relationship (I guess) we have our ups and downs. Some days my husband is wonderful and marriage is easy, but lately he's just irritating the crap out of me. I'm sure other people go through this don't they? I'm pretty sure that it's just the normal ebb and flow of a relationship (esp one where you live with the person). I guess I'm just looking for reassurance that these phases are normal??

Inneedifsupport 02/07/2009

Course its normal hon, I'm on my own at the moment but I;ve had long term relationships and I know that feeling. But there is a commitment there and I;m sure things will flow bad to the good stuff soon. Maybe a little space or time away from each other might help.......maybe hard living together though. Could you get away for a break with some girlfriends, maybe thats all you need?

Hang tough x

ebeth35 02/07/2009

Thanks, I know what you are saying is true. I'm just feeling very codependent lately (largely due to rediscovering my identity after having a baby). I guess I just watch too much TV where everyone is happy ever after and I know that's not realistic. Marriage is hard and some days I just want to back over him with my car!

Inneedifsupport 02/07/2009

thats funny.....with the car!!! Relationships are damn hard work at the best of times, but I believe being codpendent makes them even harder, you feel things more I think and are much more sensitive (which can be good at times!) but not when youre hormonal, with a new baby and a hubby grinding on your nerves........feel for you, but dont worry it will be okay..........xx

deleted_user 02/09/2009

Wowsah, I've been married over 5 yrs & my husband can drive me up a wall. You sound like a "normal" married person b/c spouses can really be challenging! GRR!

~C

Booky 02/09/2009

It depends if he is irritated or if he is just irritating you.

The economy is hard now-a-days so he might have his own troubles at his job.

And you with a new baby might be stressing you out.

I like the way of give the Man some sweets like Banana Creme Pie or Chocolate Fudge Ice cream, and that will occupy his time and he will act nicer and that will be easier on you.

To fatten the Man up is better then squishing him under the car.

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