Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
I am confused ...
1. I am married for 16 years and been away from my alcoholic partner 13 years . I have a 15 years old from this marriage .
2. He hold on to my daughter since she was 3 years ...away from me (i live in USA and them India.
3. Most part if my daughters life she was living with my parents and my family put up with her dad just so my daughter is safe . I tried several times to get hold of my daughter but it never happened. Finally at 14 years of age my daughter requested me to get her so I did . Now that she is with me I filed for my divorce and child custody ..
4. I cant change my past my dad is an alcoholic and my mom killed when I was 6 years .... abandonment rejection resentment shame fear all played primary roles in my life until I got into recovery 3 years back..
5. While all this was going on I was in relationships with partners who are unavailable. Best came to me when I was in relationship with a narcissist ... breaking off with him gave me my lifes best ... understanding of self and Recovery
6. I am confused on if I have fallen in similar trap again. A feedback is most welcome.A friend of mine for 2 years asked me last september.. when I was in midst of divorce and custody etc... so I said why not ... lived 150 miles away . He has two kids . Apparently after dating I realised that he is in similar path I am in ... he is not divorced due to debt he accumulated ... he is very much similar to me and is in.apth if cleaning his mess ... at the end of the day I feel like he is not where I am in ... atleast I filed my paper work and he didnt .... so I feel like this is all talk talk... I have two sides of me one says well give him a chance .... u were in similar situation other side says this is another relationship to failure. Torn betn two ... I am also understanding that he has walked and still walks on egg shells with his stbx... I am thinking out loud what to do abt it ...
Positive feedback(no harsh comments) are welcome ..
1. I am married for 16 years and been away from my alcoholic partner 13 years . I have a 15 years old from this marriage .
2. He hold on to my daughter since she was 3 years ...away from me (i live in USA and them India.
3. Most part if my daughters life she was living with my parents and my family put up with her dad just so my daughter is safe . I tried several times to get hold of my daughter but it never happened. Finally at 14 years of age my daughter requested me to get her so I did . Now that she is with me I filed for my divorce and child custody ..
4. I cant change my past my dad is an alcoholic and my mom killed when I was 6 years .... abandonment rejection resentment shame fear all played primary roles in my life until I got into recovery 3 years back..
5. While all this was going on I was in relationships with partners who are unavailable. Best came to me when I was in relationship with a narcissist ... breaking off with him gave me my lifes best ... understanding of self and Recovery
6. I am confused on if I have fallen in similar trap again. A feedback is most welcome.A friend of mine for 2 years asked me last september.. when I was in midst of divorce and custody etc... so I said why not ... lived 150 miles away . He has two kids . Apparently after dating I realised that he is in similar path I am in ... he is not divorced due to debt he accumulated ... he is very much similar to me and is in.apth if cleaning his mess ... at the end of the day I feel like he is not where I am in ... atleast I filed my paper work and he didnt .... so I feel like this is all talk talk... I have two sides of me one says well give him a chance .... u were in similar situation other side says this is another relationship to failure. Torn betn two ... I am also understanding that he has walked and still walks on egg shells with his stbx... I am thinking out loud what to do abt it ...
Positive feedback(no harsh comments) are welcome ..
If you and he have common ground, there's no harm is having some comfort in each other... Just keep it light for now.