Big hug from me! There are lots of good posts up right now girlfriend. - get reading and take back that power!!! that's my gentle boot in the rear end to you today! LOL

Real big hug!!

You get a hug, plus much more. I switched churches to one who honors all faiths and philosophies, only delivers positive messages. The unhealthy relationships have to go (I called the cops on my half-brother.) All this is easy to write, more difficult to do. Yes, you change yourself. And, go ahead and get pissed off in the comfort of your own home or the serenity of the woods. I think, though I'm not sure, that we have to get pissed off to stop belittling ourselves because someone else did.

You are not alone, these slumps can be difficult to overcome. I started reading "Women Who Love Too Much" by Robin Norwood because I am in an unhealthy marriage that I need to learn to let go because he has filed for a divorce and has moved out. So far, the book has been very informative. Not sure if you have read it, but I thought I'd mention it as a resource to you incase you might want to consider it. Lots of hugs. :)

Hugs! I switched churches awhile back - after I moved here to NC. I like it much better. Remember not to try to change everything at once. Take care of yourself - do it one small step at a time. Too many changes at once can be discouraging as well as overwhelming! Then, we long for the old routine. Sounds like the church should be your first step. Try talking to friends about their churches and try a new one every couple of weeks until you find your home.

Grace and Peace!

Big Hug from me as well! Remember one day at a time, you can do this and stay connected because there are so many people on here to talk to and get positive feedback from! I'm routing for ya!!!

I sent you a hug for support :)

You know I have totally stopped going to church because there is no church in this area that embraces my progressive christian beliefs...( not even the popular mega church here in town..they happen to be way more conservative then at first appearance). So I follow my faith on a progressive website and read books from progressive pastors or priests. And it is stressful when you want support from a church ( and to join in with supporting others) but you just can't get behind the church's beliefs.

The better you can learn to identify safe people and what safe boundaries are..which people have to learn thru books or therapy when co-dependent..the more success you'll have in relationships.

You have to wonder about the partners that some of us have had. They may be dysfunctional themselves. I don't think that is it in every case. But I know as I look back it has been in mine. I have chosen to stay our of relationships right now..maybe someday I will go back. But for now my purpose is to work on my recovery and take care of my child.

Good luck with your decisions. Take care

((((((HUGS)))))) from me too. Change can be scary, i would say don't cut off your church if they have people to support you through a breakup. Take one day at a time and take care of yourself x