Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
Im new to the group. My person I try to save is my 25 year old son. He has dual diagnosis. He is currently homeless and in an extended stay motel . Im always working towards recovery from codependency. I cant do homeless. And I cant to medical problems.He currently is on antibioticsfor an infection. My relationship is toxic at this point. Im physically sick from the ongoing stress from him. It is effecting my relationships with other family members. Any advice is welcome. My son has an upcoming court case this week. My plan is if he doesnt go to jail is to attempt again for him to go into rehab and this time if he doesnt i have to leave this relationship until he is ready to get help or he changes his life. This breaks my heart. Not sure if im strong enough to do this. Even with doing selfcare everyday ive been broken down in the last couple months. Im better at putting boundaries up when Im strong.
Unfortunately, I had a toxic relationship with my daughter who was quite manipulative
(not accepting no) and became very aggressive with me. I was on egg shells and making myself sick. I didn't give in but she never backed down. I held on four years, but it hit a point that I had to let go. No mother wants to do that... Ever.
Letting go can allow for healing.... for both of you. It's the hardest thing I've ever had to do. But it gives me hope for a better future.
Sometimes it takes hitting bottom before they can pick themselves up. While wanting to save him from that, you may be keeping him from the very thing he's needing to experience.
You will need to be ready for a healthier relationship with him. Take that time to work on you. And let him have time to work on him (even if it's years).
It is okay to let go. And to grieve. And to hope for a healthier son. And to trust.
Stand strong. You are a good, loving mother. He will acknowledge that with time.
God bless.