I am the same way.

I wish I could have a great guy of my own.

I am single and have 2 kids.

Take good care of yourself, and may God Bless you, ladydi !!!

Hi Ladydi - I am alone on a Sat night as well. I feel your pain. We had a full life my husband and I for 25 yrs and then poof - he just decided he did not love me any longer. Our children have been staying in touch with me but they have their own lives. I have many friends but they are married and weekends with their families. I have never felt so alone in my life. I hate the nights and weekends. I dread them. I stay busy during the week at work but nights and weekends are the worst. He has been gone a few weeks and signed a lease on an apartment. He may never come back and I don't know what will become of me. I am sorry you are alone and I understand. I try to pray and remember the good things in my life. I will pray for you that you find peace and someone who cares for you.

Hi ladydi - I really feel your pain - I've been there so many times - sending you a hug

There are so many people who are going thru the same situation and expecting others to reach out to them...
i was one of them... so what did i do started reaching out to ask if anybody is available to grab a bite or meet up for a walk or go to a dance club....

This also includes friends from support groups and inner child healing therapy groups.. suddenly it feels like i made new friends whom i can relate and grow...its beautiful... Just reach out..

Hi,

I agree with Daystar - reach out. Be the one to start the ball rolling. If you really do not know anyone to call, then check out organizations that interest you and get involved. Do that with a few, and you will have more options and things to do than you will have time for.

:-)

Shar

I kept telling my psychologist that I just felt lonely and had no friends. After starting Codependency, No More, I had decided that many of my friends were toxic to me at the time and I left them behind. Upon talking, we discovered they are toxic in some ways but good in the others. He encouraged me to go to them, call them, go visit them... I do, I still feel lonely but I know it's because of me. I constantly turn down outtings with my friends but I'm working on doing better. Like you, I agree, I'd rather have a couple great friends than a dozen.

I go through this too at times.I know how this feels. I joined meetup.com when I was single. I found a great hiking group. I know there is no substitute for a loyal, sympathetic friend when you need one though. Sometimes I just had to be my own best friend. Good friends are hard to find.

I've found that throughout my recovery as much as I want to do things, like make new friends, or do things for myself or by myself, it is very difficult to find motivation to make those first few steps. its something that I am still struggling with. my advice to you is to stay positive, go out with that attitude and just start talking to people. its very scary but the only way to change something is to try. you are definitely not alone in this.

Reach out to others and even if it.is.scarry or u get disappointef u will feel better.that u.made the.effort to do something about your situation as already said there r.many lonely people that need.us like we need them