Hello,
I was on today and saw you just posted. Your title caught my attention. Hmm, good question. I suppose you have to really think about what you want in your life. Is your partner someone you want in your life, or are you done? You may not even know. Has he done manipulative things before? Do you think he wants you back or his motive is something else? Does he have something to gain by calling You? These are just a few questions I would ask my self. I know it must be hard not to call him. I know when I went through my break up about six months ago that I slipped once and called him and left a message. When we love someone it seems breaking out of our old patterns with them are very difficult. We want them back, but the person who was nice to us and not the nasty one.
I answered another post earlier and expressed my feelings that some people are awsome manipulators. They are so good in fact that we examine our own self to see if we are the crazy one.
I know that this situation has to be so very difficult for you. You have to think is best for you. If you do not think that your ex is willing to work on the relationship then you might be better served to stay away. However, if you think he is willing to try then you have to find a way to do things differently between the two of you or you are going to end up right back where you are now.
I feel for you. Good luck, and take care of yourself.

you have to just take care of yourself. you are thinking about your ex because he is your everything right now in your mind and heart. but he isn't your everything. you are the most important thing. he is just a con artist. don't think about any one but you. take things one day at a time. pamper yourself. do anything that makes you feel happy. it is so hard to find that happy place because these people drain you dry, but it is there deep inside of you. just think back to before him and what made you happy then. do those things lots of them. Cry sometime (when you cry scream out loud like when you were a baby) it really does help you feel better. it releases pressure. then clean your face and go and enjoy yourself. say good things out loud in the mirror, (i am beautiful, i am such a sweet person, any man would be honored to have me). Take care of you. write alot on this site, it helps me release alot of stress. i am here for you. Take care.

Thanks Guys... Currently reading " Emotional Blackmail" Book by Susan forward lent by my CODA group here. This is distracting me well as i could see how i manipulated him and how he manipulated me because i let him...

Answers usually lie within .... I think i am trying to control the Uncertainity....... ( COdepndent character)

Ok now clearing my thoughts and checking - what had triggered me to this though of what he being upto?.

I think i am getting carried away of uncertainity and trying to contol what is not even certain and making a big deal of small marble. Its okay. I realised my mistake thats good.

Moving ahead :-)