Yes. Letting go is very painful. But it will pass. Hang in there.

It sounds a little like something is going on with your friend. Either something in her life. But, if you feel like you are codependent, and you did everything together.. maybe she is codependent, too? That would explain her extreme pushing you away, but also her complaints that you work too much and aren't there for her when she calls.

We tend to attract each other, haven't you found? Either way, this will likely pass, but it's important for you to start learning how to detach.

For me, it's been easy to have these extreme relationships with others, full of drama, hurt, and uneasy but desperate love. it's what was the pattern I learned in my family of origin. And, it's really important for me to make sure I'm taking care of myself, focusing on me, and not hanging my hopes on new people that come into my life. I have to cultivate my own boundaries, and make sure I'm safe and happy within them, before I reach out for others to welcome in my life.

Take good care of you!

Something I've learned about girl friendships...we grow, change and move on. It takes two to tango. Respect her wishes. Don't take it so personaly. I had a very good friend for 5 years, we hung out, she was like a sister, but she got a live in boyfriend and things changed. I moved 1000 miles away, and we haven't communicated. I don't hold a grudge. I wish her well. I don't have any friends here yet. But God willing, I'll meet someone else in the future. That's life, not always fair so hang in there.

Says you're not her only friend, and then complains that when she calls you you never answer the phone (?). Can we say DOUBLE STANDARD?

Forgive me, but I think you're better off alone. Your friend is being an idiot. Or, as others said, there's something she's not telling you...probably found a dude who's (for lack of a better word0 banging her.

She don't deserve your friendship. Be proud of yourself that you have already taken the first step to recovery.

Looks to me Missy like you've already found 5 or 6 new friends on here! Smile, you are loved!
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I'm sorry you are going through this - I sort of know how you feel. I had a childhood friend that told me she hasn't answered her calls because she didn't agree with some of my decisions and she has enough dysfunctional friends! I really did not involve her much in my life or my decisions - we would just see each other in a group every few months - I didn't even discuss much of my personal life with her. But although I felt like saying F you - I just thanked her for her honesty and decided I really didn't need any "friend" like that. Hope you feel better soon.

giving you a big hug! Yes, letting go is very hard--- we all struggle with it. Even when you know u r being rejected by a reject (clearly some one who does know the value of a good friend)It still hurts and STINKS BIG TIME!!!

You deserve better treatment and are sure to find it.

You guys awesome. I've been reading the comments to stacy's problem with her friend, and they are beautiful. : )

I know about having to let go of so-called friends all too well. It's hard, it's painful, but, sometimes, it must be done.

Stacey, these are the kinds of things you hear from real friends! Unfortunately, there's a huge lack of healthy, supportive people in the world; something I've learned the hard way. But, they're out there - this forum is a great example of that.

That had to hurt! brings back a childhood moment for me . When a friend pretty much did the same thing. Hug to you!

Letting go is painful especially when you find out someone is manipulating you! It is often difficult to see because they are nice people or people that are very close to us... but sometimes when you take a step back you realize that person is not good for you and that you have to let go..... Once you get blind sided you feel like having a pitty part and feeling like how did I fall for this again but then you realize you have been hit by a smooth operator.... and they all are nice people