Codependency Support Group

Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...

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Mainegirl
Mainegirl

I'm new to this forum, im just recently discovering im codependent. How do you draw the line between giving and nurturing like i am versus overkill and into codependency land. How do you focus on you, work on you and not just want to tackle other people's problems? 

mirandac
mirandac
There are CODA/ alanon meetings that
Will Help you. This is not easy or quick
thing to combat. It takes lots of hard
inner work.

Retraining and reparenting really. We were
Created from dysfunctional and/ or abusive
Family. You were not born a codie.

There are books, youtube videos, there
Is a lot of info out there. I love lisa romano
On youtube she has 200 plus free youtube
Videos.

Melodie beatttie she has books also has a
workbook, darlene lancer has Great books.

You keep the focus on yourself and your own
Wellbeing. Stay out of others business and
Problems. Self focus.

The natural progression here is God (HP) first
Then you, then everyone else comes afterward.

Most codies put others first that is not the normal
Or healthy way To be. HUGS
mlr0853
mlr0853
for me, it was creating boundaries of self care...reducing the amount of time spent with negative people/or those who drained my energy. Due to my codependence, I tried to "fix them", not a happening thing...the only one that can be 'fixed' is me, by changing my behavior and attitude. Being aware when I'm enabling someone by 'fixing' what they can do for themselves. Some times letting go of friendships or family members for a time while processing and learning new behaviors. Creating Strong Boundaries, with caring. express my feelings, and never take on someone else's problems as my own. Self-care is Not Selfish, I needed to get my ducks in a row, without paddling like crazy under the water by 'fixing'. Best to you as your journey begins to let go of self-responsibility for Every Thing Under The Sun....ml
Mainegirl
Mainegirl
Dan_99 exactly that's how i feel, and when i say no to something, when in reality id want someone to help me, confuses me, lol....I may process like some of my students on the spectrum and need it very black and white, lol
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