Codependency Support Group

Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...

3,331 Members

10,657 Posts

0 Online

Stellar 12/11/2017

Whenever I get into an argument with my husband it always leaves me feeling suicidal , and just about ready to act on it. I have sought out a coda group in my community and am hoping this will help me. It scares me that I can get to feeling this way so easily.

mirandac 12/11/2017

Glad you are going to attend a CODA group.
When i arrived at alanon i was on my knees.
I cried i think for two years and i finally stopped
Being a doormat after that time.

We then separated and got divorced. The
Marriage had been bad for 12 years. My ex
Has been dry for 30 years and he started
attending AA and me alanon. It was too late
for us to Repair the relationship. He had long
checked out.

Therapy helps a great deal too, read all you
Can on codependency. I listed a lot of self
Help links.

"Seek help and support with feeling suicidal
you Might need some meds to stabilize you."

I know since my divorce i have had mild
depression, Anxiety and stress. I do not Take
any meds, mine is mild and i needed To detach
from him and work thru my own codependency
issues. HUGS

Stellar 12/11/2017

Thanks for your advice

michellebrand 12/13/2017

What is it that brings you to these thoughts? Is it the thought of him being "mad" at you? or do you feel stuck?

Stellar 12/14/2017

I guess I just feel really alone and unsupported

michellebrand 12/14/2017

Oh Boy do I understand that! - I have isolated myself so much from friends and family that I am actually in fear of overwhelming them with my issues since I have not spoken of them. I worry I am going to sound crazy - I wonder if they would even have any respect for me or will they feel sad that I am living like this... I feel you. I know your pain. I have only felt like ending my life 1 time though, that was when my husband (my validator) died suddenly - talk about feeling alone. Stay strong!!

bridgie101 12/27/2017

I wonder if you have checked out borderline personality disorder. They can feel that way. like the bottom fell out of the planet after a fight.

But having said that, how old are you? What have your past life experiences been like? Do people generally leave you for good if there is some small disagreement? Has he left you before?

What exactly do you fear when you fight? What are the thoughts and feelings swirling around your body?

:)

Join the Conversation