Codependency Support Group

Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...

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jokiwhau
jokiwhau
I am finding it very difficult to come up with the courage to tell my husband that I want a divorce. He is an alcoholic, and I kicked him out 7 months ago. We have been going to counseling to see if anything can be worked out, but it is clear to me that I need to get away from this man if I ever want to be healthy. I am really struggling with the words, and also how this will affect the kids. UGH
deleted_user
deleted_user
Stay strong and sending prayers your way.
DeliAnnem
DeliAnnem
Good for your for putting yourself first and having standards. How will it affect the kids??? It will bring a hush of calm amongst the house and you will have taught them healthy boundaries. I applaud you!

How to tell? You mentioned a counselor. Tell him/her that you need that person to help you break the news to him.

I'm in your corner!
pattymum
pattymum
My dad was an alcoholic. I was about 18 and still living at home when my mom finally had enough and they split. It's not easy on the kids and there are some emotional guilt trips that go along with it but I can say there was calm after he left. There were six of us and we did ok with the divorce. I also saw that my mom made it ok on her own and that was good for an 18 year old to see.

The downside is my dad never did get it together and passed away at 58 years old about ten years after they split. I wanted him to make it but he never really could admit he had a drinking problem.

You're not responsible for his behavior.
CoDaChrome
CoDaChrome
Sounds like you have plenty of courage, as you already took the first step in splitting 7 months ago.

I think that using the counselor is a great suggestion......but the kids must already see things headed in that direction anyway.

Kids are resilient as long as the parents stay honest thru the experience and talk about it, and support them, get them into the counseling as well.....

I believe in ya, and see you well on your way to a happy life!! xxoo!!