Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
Hi all
I think i make the mistake in thinking, being in a relationship heals all etc etc. But it doesnt, you are still left with your own personal issues - like me. I come from a indian culture, dysfunctional family and have a lot of damage to heal. I wake up and feel rubbish, depsite if i had an ok time with my partner, cus at the back of my mind i know what is exptected from my family and indian culture, and at the moment im doing the two separatly as i my family dont take interest in my partner and have not met him. My mum keeps reminding me that i will be 33 in new year and how everyone my age who is in my family is married, settled to an indian sikh guy with a copule of kids - then they look at me 32, divorced with a white english guy. I cant deal with the pressure, cus its affecting me and me and my partners relationship. It just way too much and i know its upto me whether i be with him or my family, it just sucks. Its become more of a battle and its never really ever easy for me.
I think i make the mistake in thinking, being in a relationship heals all etc etc. But it doesnt, you are still left with your own personal issues - like me. I come from a indian culture, dysfunctional family and have a lot of damage to heal. I wake up and feel rubbish, depsite if i had an ok time with my partner, cus at the back of my mind i know what is exptected from my family and indian culture, and at the moment im doing the two separatly as i my family dont take interest in my partner and have not met him. My mum keeps reminding me that i will be 33 in new year and how everyone my age who is in my family is married, settled to an indian sikh guy with a copule of kids - then they look at me 32, divorced with a white english guy. I cant deal with the pressure, cus its affecting me and me and my partners relationship. It just way too much and i know its upto me whether i be with him or my family, it just sucks. Its become more of a battle and its never really ever easy for me.
Forget about your parents and significant other for a moment. Just focus on you.
You've already heard my advice. Cut the whole lot of them loose, for awhile anyway, and learn how to relax, get comfortable, and love yourself in your own skin, and love whatever Creator, otherworldly source, if any, you happen to believe in. Take long, hot baths, exercise every day, get plenty of sleep. Isn't the East Indian culture big on meditation?
I shall say no more. If you keep coming back here, complaining about the same issues you have with the same people, you're not taking my advice.