Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
I always seem to act like my girlfriend is my mother. I act like I'm her kid, like she has to take care of me. I continually make her feel like she is responsible for me. Like she has to make all of my decisions, she has to look out for my well-being, she has to make sure all my needs are met, she has to create fun in our relationship, she has to be there for me... and on and on... I know it's unhealthy. I can't seem to stop though. I feel a deep sense of loss from my unavailable parents and I try to substitute my girlfriend in that role. I am very passive, and get passive-aggressive, and she ends up bored, tired, disconnected, and sad. I am in counseling and on medication, but I just keep seeing her as my parent! It's really annoying and unhealthy and I want to stop.
Plus this is a discussion board for the treatment of codependency, so unsolicited advice is to be expected, and it is normal here to offer our advice to each other whether solicited or not.
Of course if anyone look at my comments #11 above here - then it shows that I am talking about both the original poster "sandstone" and to "ATGB" being that both of them are describing or demonstrating the violation of boundaries, and the violation of boundaries is a huge important aspect of codependency.
But I am NOT complaining as I welcome any criticism from other people here.