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my dilemma

PAMJIT
PAMJIT
Hi all

Well, i have got so many questions buzzing round in my head. I am in a good relationship with my partner. The problem is that he is english and i am indian and my family dont agree. I have been getting doubts whether this relationship is going to work long term. My family who i love dearly, i dont know if i can cause them this heartache. I am 34 yrs old, and we odnt have any money saved, and i dont know if my partner will be able to provide financially the way that i want him too. So many questions, i think my thoughts are more with my family as i am getting older.
deleted_user
deleted_user
culture defines our morals and our relationships--you have a gut feeling about fiances in regards to him-- I'd say explore it further to see if they are red flags or if you just want a certain quality of life--we all have our ways that make us safe and secure--you may need a certain level of financial security that is a healthy boundary--our you both capable of creating a plan and sticking to it seems like a reasonable question. Back to the cultural differences--both of you are defined by what a couple and family means--asking if you can combine or redefine what it means for you to --is a good sart
hbgdaystar
hbgdaystar
Been there done that..
I had to choose either my parents or my ex husband .. i chose my life my way married my ex but things didnt work out eventually as he becme alcoholic and u had to choose self or him... i chose self.

PAMJIT - why do you have to rely on your partner for financial support? Why cant you take care of your needs? What is it actually you want? Journal it.

You dont have to People please see what is it you actually want