I know I’m codependent and I’ve been working on me as he works on him and told him not to focus on us while in recovery. We can work on us after we do our individual work.

According to AA, no Big Decisions in the first year of sobriety.

Wondering why "you" filed when you don't want a divorce.
Making 'his' life easier by 'taking his responsibility" away, since he wants divorce.
Enabling.

Since 'you' filed, you might want to find out 'who' is responsible for the court costs.
At the same time, ask if you can ""un-file""

He says he’s not gonna go back and forth with his decision and I should respect his wishes. I know their not supposed to make any big decisions in the first year and that’s why I’ve always told him don’t make any decisions on our marriage and just focus on your recovery and I’ll do work on myself. I filed cause I don’t want to fight and me and my daughter plan to move out of state in the next year. He was supposed to go with us, that was the plan but in the place he is he says he’s happy and doesn’t see himself leaving now cause he has a really good program and job. He said he would help with the court fees but I was able to get a fee waiver, so no fees for me to file or anything else. I don’t want the divorce and I even forgot to sign the papers when I took them in, obviously cause my self conscious makes my heart. I don’t have any expectations on our marriage anymore but do hope he will realize what he’s walking away from.

I think there may be two sides to wanting him to see what he’s losing. If he does feel regret and starts to have doubts about a divorce then you will be validated that what you had was real and worth saving. This could keep you in limbo however and drag out something that may be inevitable.
The other option is for you to mourn the loss and start the healing and moving on phase of your life. Some day (maybe sooner than you imagine) you will look back and realize that you’re better off without him. Wanting comfort from the one who hurt us is a double edged sword. On the surface it may feel like it gives you worth but deeper it can slowly hurt your your spirit.
I know this first hand. I stayed with my wife after her affair and it took over ten years to care enough about myself to let it go and heal. Because I kept waiting for her to somehow take the hurt from me. That was my codependent clue that I denied seeing.
Had a major shift in perspective a few years ago and have been working on accepting and loving myself since.
Anyway I’m glad you posted. Get it all out. The more you can hold this in the light the less it will settle in deep places where it’s harder to get to.
Take care of yourself. For you and your daughter. Make healthy meals, drink plenty of water, exercise. Less tv and more reading. You can heal. By creating the desire to be a stronger person and taking soft steps toward that you will see change happen. It may be slow. Have patience.

The problem with living in hope that HE will change, is that once again our focus is on the other person. Hoping he will change is just another way of trying to have control in a situation you have no control over. Accept this as real. Accept it as a positive and that you have chosen it. It is wise to go with what reality really is and he is being very clear to you what his reality is. Make this change your ally and something you see as a new start. If you live in the maybe he will change thinking, it's codependence thinking. If you live in a thought process that when one door closes, another opens, and you can also say you are being your own best friend, then life feels happier. It's very sad to be divorcing, and yet life with him was difficult, he's difficult, and there were too many problems with him. He's an addict who was using a brain altering drug that he may never be the same from using it. Love isn't always enough to make everyone happy. Love is just how you feel about him, love doesn't mean you have to stay and put up with crap day after day with a man who doesn't value you. Unfortunately, this man doesn't value you the way you want. And that lack of valuing one's partner, lover, spouse is often a killer to the heart and soul of the relationship. You can do this, you can choose to grow and change and improve yourself.