It's really hard...do you work in a company with other people who are doing the same as you? Maybe a weekly get together? You could try alanon and request a sponsor. For daily or foo foo contact during these times...might seem silly but I just talk to strangers at grocery store lines, library...just notice something interesting about them and make a remark...Idid this at cvs, now I have a person to walk with or go to coffee with. You might also what to check out 'meetup.com' to see if there are any groupsyou might be interested in. Best of luck!

Hi, thanks for your suggestions. I was just looking at meetup.com yesterday! But I feel pretty scared about going alone to something like that.

Just remember, each person there took the risk and was probably scared too...like when you first wento a coda meeting....were you feeling aprehension? Same thing...you are Doing For Yourself, Your Growth as a person...who knows who you might meet! :) Best to you...Happy Thanksgiving

I think we have to make ourselves be friendly and ask others about their lives, pets, hobbies, etc. Make the effort. I would consider calling people or initiating phone calls. I notice most people don't do phone calls any longer, it is all by text. So I am trying to call one person per month to chat. I find most people do not initiate calls to me. I do have one woman who is a user type who calls my husband constantly and me occasionally but she just wants to talk about herself. A user type simply wants someone to hear them talk or monopolizes your time with their problems and it is never give and take, always take. She moans about her problems. She makes excuses and calls my husband way too much, computer questions (always the same type of questions so she never listens to the computer advice he gives her) and it was almost every day for a while. But yes, get involved in various activities which means make yourself do some social thing every week. Set a goal that is doable for. yourself. Or do volunteer work on the weekend, like at the animal shelter or food bank. If you are church inclined, they often have a lot of classes in the evenings, on zoom, etc. Especially the bigger churches. And just keep trying. Give it at least one year. I am personally on year 3 of my plan to make new friends and it is starting to blossom but I don't feel confident yet. Covid seemed to really change people and so I felt no one wanted friendships for a long long while. Except the user people in our lives.

Thank you urbangardener, for your supportive words!