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Living in conflict

PAMJIT
PAMJIT
Hi all

As you all know im in a interracial relationship and my partner is white british and i am indian. I feel like im living in conflict between my partner and my family! Its making me feel like im going mad - they just dont agree with it at all - and i dont know how to keep my sanity through it all -
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There comes a time in life, when we must become the Mother and Father to ourselves. Your family might "not appreciate" your relationship now. This problem is "not your problem." The "problem" belongs to your family members.

Be kind but firm with your family. Invite them to your home, and if they refuse it is "their problem." Keep the focus on yourself and your needs.

There are many wonderful books on prejudice. Here is a wonderful web site on the subject with hundreds of articles for free. Hope this helps.
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http://savitsky.socialpsychology.org/#overview
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Pam, how long are you going to remain?

You express being caught inbetween 2 worlds, yet you are the one who is staying put.

As we say in America "its time to shit or get off the pot".
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Cool Butterbean Cool I am laughing.

When I was 18, I got married to an "Indian doctor" from Patna, who was 22 years older than myself. The marriage lasted 10 years. He had a secret "wife" in India, and a child. He then went back to his "culture" and made the secret wife who bore his first child pregnant again The Same Time I was pregnant at 18 with my first child from him. Tell your Indian parents this story. It is important for them to know it. I had two children with this Indian doctor. The marriage lasted ten years. I was the best wife to him. I also FOUND OUT soon enough he was married to an American, but separated from her ONLY during all of this time.

Took me many decades to heal from this pain. My first daughter and his INDIAN daughter are only 3 months apart. Then he deserted this INDIAN wife forever. She now lives in DIRE POVERTY. Spread the word about prejudice. It seems to be all over the world for centuries. What cruelty humans weave.