My husband recently left me to explore a relationship with some woman he met online. While he isn't an alcoholic or a drug addict, he has struggled with various addictions during the time I've known him - from food to pornography to spending - all in a vain effort to fill some spiritual hole. He had recently begun using online dating services to meet people (unbeknownst to me) and one of those relationships developed further. Since he left me nearly two months ago, he has flown to see his "girlfriend" four times, flown her here once, and spent nearly $24,000 on craziness - from computers to Iphones to flatscreen tvs, etc. Now that he has run out of money and options, he is starting to have a lot of regrets about leaving me and the kids (ages 1 and 4). Of course, he was having all of these regrets last week and when I agreed to work on the marriage if he ended his affair, he declined and flew down to see her. Last night, after returning from his girlfriend's, he called me crying. I didn't bite and simply made arrangements for him to see the kids and hung up but it is so difficult. I don't know that I want him back but I'm scared of being alone and I have been trying to make him love/want me for so long that it is hard to not listen to his bemoaning the loss of me. How do I get detached from this and move on to a better future?
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