Bless You...if a person chooses to live in "Insanity" that will Definitely Effect Their Behavior's And Relationships.

Your Dear Husbands drug of choice 'in the world' is Not A Problem....like drugs or alcoholism, however In the grand scheme of life, he could have the 'symptoms' of alcoholism or drug addiction...it would seems so by what you've written.

It's So Good Every Time You Write...thank you for the name, I'll check him out on utube!

Have you thought of going to Alanson? You don't have to say Anything at a meeting ... just sit and listen and God Willing there will be people there who are working the program and you can ask about Mental Boundaries from abuse...they should be able to give you some tools.

Me, I learned boundaries way late in life, the biggest step you have already taken!!! So Pat yourself on the back for that!!! You are here, and You Said No to TV news!!! for your mental health!!!

Many people have an underlying unhelpful thinking style or mental illness and they watch the news and believe whatever. So much of the news, and this is all stations, sell fear based stuff or they just lie. It helps to be able to recognize the fear based stuff and the lies but most people can not. This is psychological warfare. The pandemic blew people's minds, caused great fear, changed lives for the not better, everything is different now. Some of us have not recognized the change within us nor can they understand the fear. They just live in fear now because of the losses inherent in the pandemic and what they see on media, even legacy media.

So you are wise, very wise, to step back and set what I call internal boundaries on your own responses. Stay out of reaction, which is anger, fear, overly emotional stuff. We try to set boundaries on other people but that doesn't work. We can only think out who can we change, what can we change. And that is mostly ourselves being who we can change. But our change will change the dynamics of the relationship or our own unhappiness. I have a quote for you, did not write down what book I got it from.

'If we want to stay connected to someone who has hurt us, we have to meet them where they are and accept what they are capable of offering.'

Some people can only offer a little but we can love them anyway if we stay in acceptance.

I love to learn. I haven’t read Art if war…. I imagine an element is “know your enemy”
It’s so great that you are seeing the psychological issues as the “enemy” (although it’s just what is appearing and really can’t be any other way) and not your partner.
I often reflect on us humans with our (too?) big brains and think that we all need to shift our perception.
Keep up the good work and grow as best you can no matter what else is happening.

Thank you. I have considered his interest as an addiction. Our phones just by themselves can do it. Yes I also think he is reacting on fear because he wants to control. What he should not be trying to control.