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If love is a game these are the rules - Cherie Carter scott
1.You must love yourself first
Your relationship with yourself is the central template from which all others are formed. Loving yourself is prerequisite to creating a successful and authentic union with another.
2.Partnering is a choice
The choice to be in a relationship is up to you. You have the ability to attract your beloved and cause the relationship you desire to happen.
3.Creating love is a process
Moving from I to We requires a shift in perspective and energy. Being an authentic couple is an evolution.
4.Relationships provide oppurtnites to grow
Your relationship will serve as an unofficial lifeshop in which you will learn about yourself and how you can grow on your personal path
5.Communication is essential
The open exchange of thoughts and feelings is the lifeblood of your relationship
6.Negotiation will be required
There will be times when you and your partner must work through impasses. if you do this consciously and with respect, you will learn to create win-win outcomes.
7.Your relationship will be challenged by change
Life will present turns in the road.How you maneuver those twists and turns determines the success of your relationship.
8.You must nurture the relationship for it to thrive
Treasure your beloved and your relationship will flourish
9.Renewal is the key to longetivity
Happily ever after means the ability to keep the relationship fresh and vital.
10.You will forget all this the moment you fall in love.
You know all the rules inherently. The challenge is to remember them when you fall under the enchanting spell of love.
Source - Book - If love is a game these are the rules - Cherie Carter scott
1.You must love yourself first
Your relationship with yourself is the central template from which all others are formed. Loving yourself is prerequisite to creating a successful and authentic union with another.
2.Partnering is a choice
The choice to be in a relationship is up to you. You have the ability to attract your beloved and cause the relationship you desire to happen.
3.Creating love is a process
Moving from I to We requires a shift in perspective and energy. Being an authentic couple is an evolution.
4.Relationships provide oppurtnites to grow
Your relationship will serve as an unofficial lifeshop in which you will learn about yourself and how you can grow on your personal path
5.Communication is essential
The open exchange of thoughts and feelings is the lifeblood of your relationship
6.Negotiation will be required
There will be times when you and your partner must work through impasses. if you do this consciously and with respect, you will learn to create win-win outcomes.
7.Your relationship will be challenged by change
Life will present turns in the road.How you maneuver those twists and turns determines the success of your relationship.
8.You must nurture the relationship for it to thrive
Treasure your beloved and your relationship will flourish
9.Renewal is the key to longetivity
Happily ever after means the ability to keep the relationship fresh and vital.
10.You will forget all this the moment you fall in love.
You know all the rules inherently. The challenge is to remember them when you fall under the enchanting spell of love.
Source - Book - If love is a game these are the rules - Cherie Carter scott
Another list that I found that people might find useful:
* Remember to reciprocate. The relationship has to be a give and take, and you need to be able to give and receive with grace and love.
* Your love for him is for the person he is, not what he can do for you or what you can do for him.
* If or when your 'unfinished business' from the past gets triggered, go back to the healing steps and work on them, fully owning that it is your work to do. If he is interested in working on it with you, he is a 'prince' for sure, but it is primarily your job.
* Let him know in the very beginning that your trust was impaired in early childhood and that trust is a lifelong recovery issue for you. Continue to work on trust issues without projecting them onto him.
* Fight your own dependency needs so that you do not behave in dependent or codependent ways with him. Interdependency is a must for a healthy relationship.
* Keep boundaries around your personal space and encourage him to do the same as well. Allow each other privacy when needed. Whenever this is difficult, discuss it promptly.
* Be authentic to yourself at all times.
* Take care of yourself physically, emotionally, spiritually and intellectually. Expect him to this as well, but know that you cannot control or demand it.
* Above all, be accountable for your own feelings and behaviour.
Source: Will I Ever Be Good Enough, by Karyl McBride
I liked #10 "You will forget all this the moment you fall in love". Cracked me up. Yes, under the spell of infatuation, logic and common sense go right out the window. But, over time, LOVE, beyond the spell of infatuation, in the form of intellect, if it is meant to be, will return, and those other intellectual guidelines are important after the "honeymoon phase".
Thanks!