I am part of another group for spouses of alchoholics. My boyfriend and I are not married (obviously) but we've been together for two years and recently moved in together. My boyfriend has a drinking problem. He grew up with extremely abusive and narcissitc parents and dealt with so much growing up. His parents are some of the worst people I've ever met and treat me and him like garbage to a point where I have cut off contact completely. My boyfriend is just now realizing how manipulative and awful they are but he is a long way from really working through the damage they've done or even understanding how much it has effected him. He is a sweet, funny, amazing person but when he drinks he becomes angry, aggressive, and abusive. I truly believe he is like this because he is not dealing with his trauma or pain and he is using alcohol to cope. It did not occur to me how codependent I had become in this relationship. I have always been very protective of the people I love and I desperately want to fix all his problems for him. I try to control many situations to try and shield him from dealing with things I feel that he can't handle. I have taken on so much responsibility and become so emotionally wrapped up in his issues that I feel that I'm losing myself. I have tried so many things to get him to stop drinking. I've set up plans, I've threatened and yelled and panicked and begged and cried and nothing works. I feel that now I want to figure out healthy boundaries for myself to be with him and love and support him but not being sucked into all his issues. But I have no clue where to start. I'm looking for guidance and support! Thank you!
Hope y’all are all having a wonderful day. To begin, I joined this Group because none of my friends or family understand and it’s killing me. I am 23, I have had fibromyalgia for about 8 years or so. It’s been really severe the past 5 years. I just found out 2 weeks ago I have FM. There’s no cure for it and the muscular pain is at a level 8-10 every second of every day. I’ve done all...
I have to work again tonight. I'm worried about how I'm going to function. For some reason I just can't focus on only working. I can't fully pay attention. I get triggered so easily. I'm also really sensitive to things. It's hard to keep it together.How do you guys function at work when things are really bad?