You sound so healthy in making this decision! If the friendship is draining you then you're making the best decision for yourself. Self-care is a wonderful thing.

Your friend will probably find someone else who she'll lean on & will somehow (sarcasm!) make it on her own. As for you, kudos for taking the initiative & choosing what's right for you. :)

good for you, if she isn't interested in things that are important to you she isn't really your friend. She sounds like a very selfish self absorbed person. your better off without her.

Cat, I understand your point very well. You are slowly but surely becoming Codependent No More! It's a long process to be able to let go of soul-sucking people, to realize that their problems and agony are theirs - not anyone else's - to fix!

Once you really really learn in your heart that no matter what you try to do, other people will fix themselves on their time (if at all), it's a freeing revelation. Now all you have to worry about, concentrate on, and make better is YOU! And this applies to absolutely anyone in our life who drains our soul, even very close family members. They know what their doing...don't believe otherwise.

You're on the right road. Keep on keeping on!

hugs

I applaud you for your strength to move on. It's easy to get caught up in other people's needs,but ultimately how they feel about your contribution to the friendship is differing of opinions and either way you have to way the benefits of staying friends with someone.

I know well what it's like to be around someone who talks about suicide. I even know what it's like to feel overwhelmed by demands and unappreciation from those in that thought process. From nearly having my life snuffed out by someone claiming to be "suicidal" unfortunately I stay far away from anyone like that. Having been a suicidal teen,I personally never used my depression and suicidal feelings to pressure others to do things for me. I feel from my own experience,that people who are truly suicidal for the most part,would keep that deep dark secret to themselves. Having met and almost been killed by someone using "suicide" as a way to keep my mother trapped in a relationship with them, I am sickened by people who use it as a ploy to force others to stay around them.

Friendship isn't a one way thing. You're a strong woman for standing up for yourself. That's the first step in determining your boundaries. Second is telling friends like that to take a hike. No bother in trying to explain yourself,you have justifiable reasons to walk,no run away from a toxic person as you've described!

Hugs,

Thank you all so much for your replies and your support!

You are very clear on this. I was once told that once you say it out loud it becomes true. Writing it is the first step. I know sometimes we tell ourselves what we must do and then it is very hard to follow through.
Mentally, you know what you need to do.
Please stay strong and carry through. Say it outloud. (Tell someone, even it is your mom) You will be so much better off.
Good Luck.

Thank you! That was very interesting advice :)

it sounds like a very healthy thing to do, give yourself a pat on the back.I have a friend and everything is all about him and his gf, it's wacked, they do crazy azz crap all the time and they are suppose to be grown ups. So we don't have anything in common anymore, they drink and I don't. His gf stabbed him and he thinks that is not normal but he won't end the relationship either, so they are both doing crazy stuff and trying to keep a doomed relationship together.

I agree with everyone before me!! And as for the point of this post...you're sharing your victory with us!! We are all both the teachers and students here. We all can learn from the strength you are showing. I know I will!