Codependency Support Group

Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...

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allicat9375 04/01/2012

I found this song at the same time I found out that I was codependent!
This song describes every relationship I have been in, I date broken men, and I have no clue but they must have a police record, been locked up, lost driving privileges. and be a drug user.

I must have a tattoo on my forhead that broken men apply here! LOL!!

Dia Frampton : "The Broken Ones"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zz04teo1j9k&hd=1

The Broken Ones lyrics

I know they've hurt you bad.
Wide, the scars you have.
Baby let me straighten out your broken bones,
All your faults to me make you more beautiful.

I can't help it,
I love the broken ones,
The ones who,
Need the most patching up.
The ones who've,
Never been loved,
Never been loved,
Never been loved.
And O maybe I see a part of me in them.
The missing piece always trying to fit in.
The shattered heart,
Hungry for a home.
No you're not alone,
I love the broken ones.

You don't have to drive,
With your headlights off.
It's a pocketknife,
Not a gift from god.
Don't you learn of love from the love they kept.
I will be your anchor slowly,
Step by step.

I can't help it,
I love the broken ones,
The ones who,
Need the most patching up.

deleted_user 04/02/2012

Yup that sounds about right

allicat9375 04/02/2012

When I was in school I was always friends with the kid no body liked or the smelly kid. The men I date no on in their right mind should want and their attitudes stink!!

I told a friend of mine I wouldn't know what to do with a nice boy like him. He has no criminal record, he has a job, he can legally drive and he's never been married. What the hell would I do with that?

deleted_user 04/02/2012

Ah, that's one for a qualified therapist! But maybe you should try an unbroken one sometime and see how it's different.

allicat9375 04/02/2012

Cheyrl I'm working at gettin there, it so doesn't help that I am a co-dependent and a sex and love addict.I just started back on meds and going to see a therapist

For 37 years I have watched my mom do everything for my dad and barely speaks to her.I just got use to having men just as useless as my dad.

I'm just trying to get better for me right now!

kg1130 04/02/2012

OMG, that is so me. Wow! I never knew just how "codependant" I am until recently and I was also one of those who loved the kids in school with disabilities or the homeless looking kids. Wow! and I thought it was because I was just a nice person. I now see that even though I was a nice person to these people it is the others I look at now and I remember that I felt I was not good enough for them, they made me feel uncomfortable and I just never seemed to fit in with them. I have never had a lot of friends and even as an adult and because of being with my loser of a husband I haven't had many friends, you see how I blamed that on him. LOL. Wow! Life is eye opening isn't it. Why did I feel I was not good enough back in my school days? Should I now blame my parents? LOL who do I blame next?

allicat9375 04/02/2012

I too was Friends with every disabled or mentally challenged kids. My therapist thought I picked these men because she figured I had low-self esteem. I told her that so wasn't my issue, I think I am as a playboy model, just not fit and toned!

this song explains my codependent issues completely!

deleted_user 04/02/2012

Me,too. At least I thought I did until I got sick of it.

After my husband died I took a vacation from men.

First man. Mechanical engineer building the 777 for Boeing. Has it all but quickly turned out to be another one.

Stay away from them again. Find another gem. Wrong.

Stay away, go into therapy, join this website, feel the recovery kickin in.......a man enters my life and I get that tingle.....the wake-up call.
Sure enough, no matter how much I perceive that we have in common, it is useless to pursue a relationship with this man because he is toooooo wounded. Period. And I can see it. He can see, in his mind'seye that I can fix him and give him all the love he is lacking. I don't have a therapist's license, nor have we signed any papers of confidentiality.....wow.....I got out fast....but I have a crush on him but it is way too dangerous for my sanity and peace. Peace.

deleted_user 04/02/2012

Beautiful voice and lyrics.

sassybabe11 04/03/2012

most of us love the broken ones for many years and then resentment and reality sets in and we realize that have harmed ourselves. i have always choose men that everyone around me family, freinds, and co-workers were just appalled by. code and low self esteem and also the need to take on a challenge - i can change him and he might not have been a good companion for another poor soul, but i thought that they would love me enought to change and become an upstanding citizens and not the addict with the personality disorder. haha sorta funny to me now. good luck

koolman 04/03/2012

So did Jesus.

And we're all "broken", in one way or another!

deleted_user 04/04/2012

So I told the guy I was not interested.....leave me alone....he sexually molested me.
He says he will never call me again. I then get, last night, 23 text messages. About how great he is.
Today he texted me to reconsider....we would be sooooo good together.
Crappolla! What part of "NO" does this guy not get? He is a phone stalker.
I do not want to get FAT just to keep men away, but I can't help it if lots of men are horn dogs (their words, not mine). I really feel traumatized but probably not as much as I would be had I not hooked up with this group of supportive people. Thanks for letting me vent.
I really think this guy could have killed me last night if I did not have the skills I possess. I am not sure if I am safe yet. If anyone reads this, please don't advise me to call the police like one woman did. The police in this town do nada nada. Nothing. Period. I am going off the deep end. Better go pray and meditate. Peace.

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