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Being brutally honest here & value your opinion without judgment:
I've noticed that I always have some kind of drama going on. Sometimes I haven't created it (eg. Mom getting sick), but other times I am aware that I'm a catalyst in the chain of events. I may not have "started it," but via my involvement, the thing gets magnified and eventually blows up. Or I'm emotionally wrecked by it.
Subsequently, I feel either criticized or defeated, and my instinct is to withdraw & isolate, because I don't want to put myself or anyone else through it again. And then another situation emerges...
I'm tired of the drama, but wonder if it's an addiction?
If things are calm for the day, would I just get depressed & bored?
Am I subconsciously creating excitement to feel like my day has purpose & meaning?
Am I the only one who experiences this?
Wondering if this is a common phenomenon of Codependency? I'm involved in another support group, ACoA, in which excitement/drama seems to be 1 of the top items on the list of issues.
I suspect I subconsciously create drama to procrastinate dealing with the important things in my life (er, like getting a job; working on taxes; getting involved in volunteerism or activity) and I don't like myself very much because of it.
Identifying it is good, but more importantly, what do you recommend to avoid creating drama in the 1st place?
Because isolation is not the answer. Neither is over-reaction.
Sigh. Thanks!
I've noticed that I always have some kind of drama going on. Sometimes I haven't created it (eg. Mom getting sick), but other times I am aware that I'm a catalyst in the chain of events. I may not have "started it," but via my involvement, the thing gets magnified and eventually blows up. Or I'm emotionally wrecked by it.
Subsequently, I feel either criticized or defeated, and my instinct is to withdraw & isolate, because I don't want to put myself or anyone else through it again. And then another situation emerges...
I'm tired of the drama, but wonder if it's an addiction?
If things are calm for the day, would I just get depressed & bored?
Am I subconsciously creating excitement to feel like my day has purpose & meaning?
Am I the only one who experiences this?
Wondering if this is a common phenomenon of Codependency? I'm involved in another support group, ACoA, in which excitement/drama seems to be 1 of the top items on the list of issues.
I suspect I subconsciously create drama to procrastinate dealing with the important things in my life (er, like getting a job; working on taxes; getting involved in volunteerism or activity) and I don't like myself very much because of it.
Identifying it is good, but more importantly, what do you recommend to avoid creating drama in the 1st place?
Because isolation is not the answer. Neither is over-reaction.
Sigh. Thanks!
Here is the background why this happens, All ACA's go through so much drama in their life starting from childhood that our brains are addicted to drama at cellular level and normal is boring... therefore when there is no drama we create a drama experience in our head to function normally.
The only way i found to break it is not going into loops of thoughts and identify it when its happening and when it happens focusing on a healthy behavior .. May be some physical activity or being around people in 12 step meetings or journaling or listening to music or reading language of letting go or walk the dogs ..... Basically diverting your mind from the looping thoughts..
If even this doesnt work than i ask myself questions what am i feeling? what do i need now? Is my inner child vulnerable? if so how do i be loving parent?
it does take time for the whole process and finally i come out of it...
i no more react based on my drama feelings anymore.