Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
oh my god, im 32 and in a relatinoship with a english guy. Do i have any idea of what i have got myself into - all the pressures of conforming to the indian way - and if u dont, then no one wants to know - im depressed and annoyed all the time and the intensity just increases! I feel bad and guilty for letting my family down - i mean all they want is for me to be with a sikh indian guy - how hard is that!!! well it is bloody tough! As indian people dont know what they feel - im damned if i do and damned if i dont- what shall i do
The pressures a family can put on you to conform are tremendous. I may seem cold, but do you have a way to earn your own living? Because financial independence is the first step out especially for women. Set yourself up to be able to take care of yourself, one step at a time in baby steps. You'll be able to cope with the pressure easier once you start to see a way out. You need to set up your escape route. Your english friend may help, but don't count on him to rescue you, because once you make the break with your family, there will be no going back, you'll have to be prepared to make it with or without him.
I don't know if that is helpful. Think things through slowly and clearly before you say or do anything. Mixed marriages can work, but it takes a whole lot of committment to make that happen.