Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
I am a codependent and we all know most of our codependency stems from our dysfunctional families and childhood... we just learnt to survive instead of living it.
I come from an alcoholic family, Dad displayed Narcissism and mom(deceased) an enabler and codependent and step mom same thing Enabler and codependent and i dont need any intro i am recovering codependent.
We learnt very early that we are RESPONSIBLE for taking CARE of others. How many of you attend ACA ( Adult child of Alcoholic and Dysfunctional Families)? How many of you work on your root cause of Childhood ( Inner child healing ). Get the big red book of ACA its a great book to work on your childhood healing.
I know this is Codependency blog but until and unless you dont heal the child within you are vulnerable all the time...Inner child healing helps you to take care of your needs and wants. When vulnerable it helps you to be a loving parent for your inner child.
Needs in Recovery of Adult Members of An Alcoholic or Dysfunctional Family
Chief Enabler Needs
Let go of responsibility.
Get in touch with feelings.
Refocus on self (wants and needs).
Become aware of self-responsibility and let others do the same.
Deal with anger without blaming or falling apart.
Strengths: Nurturing, Giving, Loving.
Family Hero Needs
Learn to ask for and take what they need.
Learn to accept failure.
Let down, relax and be.
Focus on self and stop "fixing" the family.
Strengths: Hard workers, know how to get what they want.
Family Scapegoat Needs
Get through anger to the hurt.
Learn to negotiate instead of rebel.
Strengths: Can see reality, has good insight, sensitive and courageous.
Lost Child Needs
To reach out.
Deal with loneliness.
Face pain.
Make new close relationships.
Strengths: Patient, creative and independent.
Mascot Needs
To take responsibility.
Risk being serious.
Assertiveness.
Strengths: Humor, know how to enjoy.
I come from an alcoholic family, Dad displayed Narcissism and mom(deceased) an enabler and codependent and step mom same thing Enabler and codependent and i dont need any intro i am recovering codependent.
We learnt very early that we are RESPONSIBLE for taking CARE of others. How many of you attend ACA ( Adult child of Alcoholic and Dysfunctional Families)? How many of you work on your root cause of Childhood ( Inner child healing ). Get the big red book of ACA its a great book to work on your childhood healing.
I know this is Codependency blog but until and unless you dont heal the child within you are vulnerable all the time...Inner child healing helps you to take care of your needs and wants. When vulnerable it helps you to be a loving parent for your inner child.
Needs in Recovery of Adult Members of An Alcoholic or Dysfunctional Family
Chief Enabler Needs
Let go of responsibility.
Get in touch with feelings.
Refocus on self (wants and needs).
Become aware of self-responsibility and let others do the same.
Deal with anger without blaming or falling apart.
Strengths: Nurturing, Giving, Loving.
Family Hero Needs
Learn to ask for and take what they need.
Learn to accept failure.
Let down, relax and be.
Focus on self and stop "fixing" the family.
Strengths: Hard workers, know how to get what they want.
Family Scapegoat Needs
Get through anger to the hurt.
Learn to negotiate instead of rebel.
Strengths: Can see reality, has good insight, sensitive and courageous.
Lost Child Needs
To reach out.
Deal with loneliness.
Face pain.
Make new close relationships.
Strengths: Patient, creative and independent.
Mascot Needs
To take responsibility.
Risk being serious.
Assertiveness.
Strengths: Humor, know how to enjoy.
Any thoughts? I remember when recovering the Inner Child was all the rage when I was an addictions counselor but it fell out of favor then for lacking research efficacy....yet I see it as an important and necessary component in our recovery as codas
And where do we get the red book of ACA? There is no such group but I maybe relocating to Colorado Springs soon where more is offered for recovery and just activities for life's enjoyment.
Redbook from ACA can be found http://www.adultchildren.org/lit/Handbook.s