I am codependent and deal with mild depression. I have a really good friend that has depression issues. We understand each other but she craves the attention and pity. When she's really down, she post it all over social media. I personally don't like it when people do that but to each their own.

She was recently was diagnosed with cancer. A full recovery after treatment is expected. I didn't visit her every day nor did I message her everyday. I have a full time, stressful job that requires me to work long hours. Btw she is unemployed by choice. So she just sits at home posting about cancer all day and counting the likes and reading the post. 

On two different occasions she messaged me telling me how I hurt her by avoiding her and saying I wouldn't to talk to her. Both messages were 3 days after I had spoken to her. 

This makes me angry and resentful. Both times I tried to talk to her after I received the msg, she burst into tears. So, I bit my tongue. 

I was going out of the country for a week after the last blow up, so I just left it alone. I contacted her when I returned to ask how treatment was going. We didn't bring up the last discussion. 

My problem: I'm so angry and resentful. I just want to walk away to avoid any further conflict but then I feel like a bad person.

I've spent all my life trying to please others. I can't do it anymore. 

But then I still have that nagging feeling that I shouldn't be this way... she's sick and I have no idea what's she's going through.