Codependency Support Group

Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...

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pekitas 03/20/2012

I love to shop, I am aware that I feel very good when I splurge on myself and I feel that "I'm just taking care of myself" I am conforting myself because I desserve it?! or I eat lot of desserts, chocolate and I like the expenssive ones...
I need to break from that because is causing me financial distress and I feel very irresponsable and guilty once I am broke...

Does any one have any suggestions on things I could do instead or how to break from this behavior?

hbgdaystar 03/20/2012

Take your previous bank statements and credit card statements and see how much you are splurging. If its too overwhelming than budget it say 100$ or whatever you can afford per month for myself and when you go out just carry 100$ cash with you and use that cash only for entire month. That way you will limit your expenses.

Give up Sugar. Join 21 day Sugar detox program that will help you cut down on cravings for sugar and other rich fatty foods.

deleted_user 03/21/2012

i try to live well 0n the cheap i go to supermarkets at 8pm s i can get all the good food reduced go to hairdressers on training days go to my local beauty college when they are training for cheap treatments buy things in the sales or second hand these for me are pain free ways of saving my cash

deleted_user 03/21/2012

Realizing I, too, was doing the same thing was the beginning of stopping such behavior for me. Once I became aware, and really took a look at it and accepted that what I thought was giving me pleasure was in reality only temporary and actually digging a deeper hole for myself, I slowly began to wean myself from soothing myself in self-destructive behaviors.

I was so broke this time last year. It took time, but i and my accounts and shopping and sugar consumption are now under control.

We can do it.

hbgdaystar 03/21/2012

When you have urge to buy ask yourself if you really need it or want it.. If its want than you will sleep on it and decide later.

Values, Needs, wants and Goals see the link it may help you.

http://lake-central.lcsc.us/userfiles/rose-sgambelluri/Values,_Needs,_Wants_and_Goal_Setting_Essentials_7_17_2_G1[1].pdf

pekitas 03/22/2012

Thank you all for taking time to give me some advise. It's very conforting to know that I am not alone in this journey and to hear that it will get better, it is also very encouraging and I feel very endeared.

deleted_user 03/22/2012

listen to music and sing or dance or write how you feel

koolman 03/22/2012

Relax more deeply, sleep more deeply and exercise. Rely on spiritual rather than material comfort. Get to know and love God.

If you can find a deeper source of comfort than material pleasures, that should keep your spending habits in check.

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