Take a friend with you for support. It sounds like it might be overwhelming with the different emotions that might flood through you. Also, you don't know if your ex will bring her partner with her, so it would be good to have some support just in case. I would suggest that you look your best, keep a smile on your face, stay polite but keep conversation to a minimum and get through it as quickly as you can. Sending hugs your way.

I don't know how much is in the account, but insist it be divided into equal cash halves.

If there is enough money that they can't do cash, but have to make a check, then there has to be two checks, one check payable to you, then a check payable to her.

Don't accept a check made payable to both of you jointly--it's how she can say she will sign it later and give it to you, but instead forge the check. It will take a long time to work it out and you're out the money in the meantime.

Forgot to mention. Make sure the bank actually CLOSES the account. Sometimes they take the money out but don't close the account and it can start accruing fees for not having any money in it and by the time you find out, it could be a hundred dollars or more.

DEFINTELY INSIST THEY CLOSE THE ACCOUNT THAT DAY and close it permanently.

Thanks for the advice guys
I got up, showered, put on my good jeans and good bra and a touch of make up. Got there early and she was late as per usual. I ended up closing it on my own without her and gave her the cash when she got there as the money was all hers (she was the only one who'd been using it for rent and bills now i'm living back at dads and shes still in our house). We ended up in a heated discussion in the carpark for an hour after that and we both cried. After we were done laying blame on each other we admitted and owned resposibility for all the things we'd done wrong. She said she will always love me and she always thought i was the one. I feel exactly the same. Although it felt good to have her admit her feelings for me (shes been so stoneyfaced and cold in all our past meetings that i started to doubt she was hurting over the break up at all or ever had genuine feelings for me at all) I still feel like absolute shit now. I came home and because its my weekend off had to start sorting through all the boxes and moving into my room. Ive had to sort through all the things she bought me or that remind me of her and create a separate box (which has turned into 5 boxes) to keep them in because i cant look at them right now but might wanna look at them some day. I still love her so much and I can guarantee that even if i wasnt a love addict i would still love her. I just feel so awful, the pain is unbearable. I can't bear to think of her with someone else or being replaced and forgotten about. I just can't help hoping we'll get it together one day. I truly believe she's my soul mate. I just wish our separate families hadn't messed us up so much in our childhoods that we cant make it work. My god I miss her and I just feel like I'm dying today. Its just too much and all feels insurmountable. It makes me wonder how anyone ever survives a break up, I feel clinically insane today

When you get like this it helps to remember the bad times. Right down all the awful things that happened and what was said, and re-read it when you get in a low mood. I find that helps a lot.

Ok Cheryt thanks I'll try that. I just find it hard because i have so much compassion for her and i know she's a good person and I understand why she's done the things shes done. That all makes it really hard to be angry at her. I'm very very hurt but only a little bit angry. Maybe I believe after everything i did to her I deserve it

lol.
is it a court order that you are to close out acct n give her all the funds.
court order of property settlement works.
I nicknames my former Al as in alimony
being that I had adopt his son's, lol, I also got child support for the boys,lol
will you be going after child support n/r alimony n/r property n/r

Alana has a good point.
I always take a witness n a recorder.

Best wish's in court n banking business.