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1. THEY ARE ABLE TO SELF-REFLECT: THEY TAKE CHARGE OF THEIR OWN LIVES.
2. THEY TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEIR OWN ATTITUDES
3. THEY HAVE GOALS AND WORK TOWARD MEETING THEM
4. THEY CONSCIOUSLY MAINTAIN GOOD HABITS
5. HAVE GOOD BOUNDARIES
6. THEY KNOW THEIR OWN SHORTCOMINGS AND INSECURITIES
7. THEY AVOID UNNECESSARY CONFLICT BUT SPEAK UP WHEN NECESSARY
8. THEY HAVE REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS OF LIFE
9. THEY TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEIR OWN MOODS
10. THEY HAVE AND LIVE BY GOOD VALUES
11. THEY ARE GRATEFUL AND APPRECIATIVE OF WHAT LIFE GIVES THEM
12. THEY MAINTAIN STRONG RELATIONSHIP NETWORKS
13. THEY ARE ACTIVE: THEY GET INVOLVED IN LIFE
14. THEY TEND TO HAVE A POSITIVE BELIEF SYSTEM OF SOME KIND
15. THEY lIVE IN THE PRESENT
16. THEY HAVE A BALANCED AND MATURE OUTLOOK ON LIFE
Source - Book - Emotional Sobriety: From Relationship Trauma to Resilience and Balance by Dayton Ph.D., Tian.
2. THEY TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEIR OWN ATTITUDES
3. THEY HAVE GOALS AND WORK TOWARD MEETING THEM
4. THEY CONSCIOUSLY MAINTAIN GOOD HABITS
5. HAVE GOOD BOUNDARIES
6. THEY KNOW THEIR OWN SHORTCOMINGS AND INSECURITIES
7. THEY AVOID UNNECESSARY CONFLICT BUT SPEAK UP WHEN NECESSARY
8. THEY HAVE REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS OF LIFE
9. THEY TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEIR OWN MOODS
10. THEY HAVE AND LIVE BY GOOD VALUES
11. THEY ARE GRATEFUL AND APPRECIATIVE OF WHAT LIFE GIVES THEM
12. THEY MAINTAIN STRONG RELATIONSHIP NETWORKS
13. THEY ARE ACTIVE: THEY GET INVOLVED IN LIFE
14. THEY TEND TO HAVE A POSITIVE BELIEF SYSTEM OF SOME KIND
15. THEY lIVE IN THE PRESENT
16. THEY HAVE A BALANCED AND MATURE OUTLOOK ON LIFE
Source - Book - Emotional Sobriety: From Relationship Trauma to Resilience and Balance by Dayton Ph.D., Tian.
Thanks.
Instead, I propose that when a list like this is created, the Solution is also offered at the same time. Because to condescend and say: "They have a Balanced and Mature Outlook on Life" offers me very little in the way of how to go about achieving it. For me it creates a visual of the perfect family, having their perfect lives, while I continue to screw up. Unless I get my tongue surgically removed and keep my mouth permanently shut...
I have no problem with capital letters - and I can't imagine telling someone how they should post.
As i understand it we post and reply here for our own healing - and we are not required to post things in such a manner that it fits someone else's idea of what is correct.
Sorry thegobetween - but I felt the need to speak up. I think your list is quite helpful.
lis
1. Caps was unintentional... I copied and pasted headings from the chapter Habits of Emotionally Sober People from the book Emotional Sobriety.
2. About the content Some thing that which is liberating can be a hot button for others.. All that i shared is something that i felt liberating for me in Tian Daytons book and thought it might help others, My intention was not to be controversial.
3. I cannot offer solution base here ... Author has done a lot of effort in researching and educating herself before she could put this down in her book. Please buy a copy if you are interested.
4. I didn't frankly know CAPS sentences can really upset people. My mother tongue is not English.
lis