I meant to say I am broken up with her. We do not communicate but the final draw was I gave her extreme anxiety from a guilt trip. It just comes out so fast.

Using guilt with another person is a way to manipulate and control them into doing what you want. You know what it means and you know how it makes the other person feel. It's time to stop doing it because it ruins relationships.

I know what it is but when I'm doing it, I'm not aware. How can I prevent this? Ideas?

Here are some articles to read:

http://marymerriment.hubpages.com/hub/How-to-Deal-with-Energy-Sucking-People

http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/difficult-people/guilt-tripper

Ty

I used to have the habit of over exaggerating how "dramatic" things were in my life to get attention. I learned that it was a coping mechanism and I was doing it because of I felt "voice-less" as a kd, unless something was wrong. As I got older it stopped working and eventually I got labeled "drama queen" and was ike the girl who cried wolf. It takes looking deep inside and working out why you believe that simply asking or calmly telling someone that something doesn't work for you, scares you. I think any of Melody Beattie's books are price-less for working on this type of co-dependent behavior. Take it easy on yourself. It takes time and commitment to change your behavior. It's not enough just to "want" to stop.

I'm really glad I posted this. I appreicate the two of you! So, far I've learned so much. I'm embarrased about my behaviour. I want to change so bad. When my life looks good I forget that I "MUST" contiune on working on myself. x0