Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
So on top of it all, my boyfriend, ex, whatever his label is, starts to tell me his doctor thinks his liver enzymes are off and he most likely has contracted hepitis c, naturally something was going to give because after years of intervienous drug use, he was going to die of something, I've been doing so much work on myself to heal myself from
My codapendency, I am not on drugs, I've never used needles, so my natural instinct is to investigate why he can't stop and why, all the while taking the focus off of myself. My heart aches, I just don't know what it will take him to stop using, I think he's going to die and I just don't want to lose him as a person forget being in a relationship, it's like he has cancer and it's just a matter or time, a waiting game it all feels like I just have to sit back and wait for the horrible phone call. I want healthy relationships, but I also just can't detach from one especially when I know they may be sick w another disease. I feel broken down...again...sad that you connect w people that forever is not promised. On top of it all...I have to get tested and make sure I don't have any contracted diseases...sucks
My codapendency, I am not on drugs, I've never used needles, so my natural instinct is to investigate why he can't stop and why, all the while taking the focus off of myself. My heart aches, I just don't know what it will take him to stop using, I think he's going to die and I just don't want to lose him as a person forget being in a relationship, it's like he has cancer and it's just a matter or time, a waiting game it all feels like I just have to sit back and wait for the horrible phone call. I want healthy relationships, but I also just can't detach from one especially when I know they may be sick w another disease. I feel broken down...again...sad that you connect w people that forever is not promised. On top of it all...I have to get tested and make sure I don't have any contracted diseases...sucks
You didn't cause this. It's not yours to fix. You ARE a spectator in your EX's life and life choices. This is a hard pill to swallow because we are used to trying to fix and save everyone we love.
Realizing how helpless we are to others behaviors can feel really overwhelming if you let it. It can also be very freeing to know you are not responsible and in fact are not capable of fixing anything outside yourself.
I'm sorry someone you care so deeply about continues to trend downward. No matter how you look at it or what stand you take with it, it is heartbreaking for sure. Just don't make it worse on yourself and harder on yourself by telling yourself you shoulda coulda woulda done something to make it better, because that is absolutely not in your hands.