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Hi everyone,
I was just thinking i have just turned 35! and i am depressed about this, cus culture, society wants me to be married, with kids! the indian way!
Well my partner is white english, and i have been living with him for over 4 years now. Now let me tell you i am the only 35 yr old sikh woman who is not married with kids. Family functions are a nightmare or am i being paranoid, i sometime sit with the unmarried kids who are in their early 20's, everyone who doesnt know must think of me as there is something wrong. Parents are getting stressed cus they cant say im living with a english guy. They want me married....i feel guilty for every bloody thing.
My partner simon is not sure to go through with it, indians are hard to please, and especially the marriage partner is a task in its self.
Im at a cross road, and you know for people going through what we do, decisiosn are hard to make. For me i have had problems trusting myself, a lot of my decisions growing up were made for me, even though i had my own ideas and wants. Am i damaged, feel like a scared little kid...feel like time running out.
My parents havent met simon and now are saying its up to me, but yet that even asked anything about him. He is depressed as he doesnt feel good enough, just dont know if it will work, how can my family marry me to someone they havent asked anything about. I asked my dad why he hasnt even said anything about him in the last 4 years but negative things, and he said thats just how it is.
Just feeling down///
I was just thinking i have just turned 35! and i am depressed about this, cus culture, society wants me to be married, with kids! the indian way!
Well my partner is white english, and i have been living with him for over 4 years now. Now let me tell you i am the only 35 yr old sikh woman who is not married with kids. Family functions are a nightmare or am i being paranoid, i sometime sit with the unmarried kids who are in their early 20's, everyone who doesnt know must think of me as there is something wrong. Parents are getting stressed cus they cant say im living with a english guy. They want me married....i feel guilty for every bloody thing.
My partner simon is not sure to go through with it, indians are hard to please, and especially the marriage partner is a task in its self.
Im at a cross road, and you know for people going through what we do, decisiosn are hard to make. For me i have had problems trusting myself, a lot of my decisions growing up were made for me, even though i had my own ideas and wants. Am i damaged, feel like a scared little kid...feel like time running out.
My parents havent met simon and now are saying its up to me, but yet that even asked anything about him. He is depressed as he doesnt feel good enough, just dont know if it will work, how can my family marry me to someone they havent asked anything about. I asked my dad why he hasnt even said anything about him in the last 4 years but negative things, and he said thats just how it is.
Just feeling down///
Are you HAPPY with your family? Are you HAPPY with Simon? Are you happy ANYWHERE? And, if not, what WOULD make you happy?
I think you're feeling lost due to a lack of (positive) identity, and that is OK.
Maybe just take some time off from EVERYBODY, and go into nature. That's what I do. Nature nurtures. In nature, God will speak to you, and help you find peace, with or without children.