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For the past few years Easter has been a time when my husband has got really depressed and taken it out on the family. This year thing started well, but 2 days into the Easter break he got sick with the flu and has been sick and miserable all holiday. I know that for him, depression follows sickness and he inevitably tells me how crap our relationship is etc etc. So I have been feeling increasingly anxious.. Today I asked him if he wanted to come out and do something with the family if he was feeling a bit better. He took this as an insult ( of course he wants to do something but he is sick)
He then starts telling me how shit our relationship is. I (stupidly) start saying how it isn't all crap as we have been moving on lately ( I really believe this) he gets angry because I am not just hearing how awful he feels and am trying to tell him how it is not all that bad. I am SO sick of all the holiday negativity and he feels I don't hear him or understand his pain . Question: did I do something wrong?
He then starts telling me how shit our relationship is. I (stupidly) start saying how it isn't all crap as we have been moving on lately ( I really believe this) he gets angry because I am not just hearing how awful he feels and am trying to tell him how it is not all that bad. I am SO sick of all the holiday negativity and he feels I don't hear him or understand his pain . Question: did I do something wrong?
Well... maybe if he is telling you he is not happy a you tell him the
relationship is not bad, then maybe in a way he isnt being heard? Maybe you could ask him what he thinks you both should do about it?