There is this man that I know who seems a bit overly obsessed with me.  I see him at get togethers.  When I ran into him again this weekend and saw him again, I was nearing the end of the evening and had gotten up to leave, had my purse, and he said in a very commanding manner, "Sit down!"

I chose not to respond or say anything, I just left. The reason being that I think with controlling people, if they can upset, throw you off or get you to respond in some way, you've now taken the bait. I don't even find this frightening or intimidating, maybe I did at one point.  I decided to just observe and not respond.

I don't know what people are thinking when they act like this. Is this supposed to be endearing? Doesn't seem so. It comes off as crazy and screwed up. Sometimes I wonder how people think this type of behavior is attractive, though I suppose if you are very codependent that you would fall for this garbage. To me it's a sign of someone who is testing how compliant you would be, not an attractive quality at all.