I really relate to what you're experiencing. I've completely detached from my dad and step-mom, yet found myself wishing one of them would call a couple weeks ago. I have no idea why I was feeling this way or wishing for it because my rational self knew it would have a negative result.
I don't think we are crazy, I think it's old patterns trying to creep back in. I feel that if we detached obviously we had a good reason for doing so and we should probably try to stick with it until we are strong enough to get back into those relationships.....if at all. Just my opinion!

I think what you are feeling is normal. It's hard to let go of people we care about. Just take it one day at a time and it will get easier. You will most likely grieve the loss of this person. Take care of yourself. You are worth it. :)

I have a friend just like this one. We do find for a while,then we fight and don't talk for a while. The problem with this is that having her in my life is toxic. She is fine as long as you never disagree with her.

I have learned that it is best not to have her as a close friend. She is a FaceBook Friend and that's all.

Sober One Day At A Time~
Allison~Codependent

Hi,

Detachment is not easy. I have done that with two siblings, and I miss them. I think it is normal to miss people that we care about. But, I remind myself that I am doing this for my peace of mind. In my relationship, it was all about them, and I was the cheerleader/support/listener. The last few years of my life have encompassed some huge life changes, none of which were things that I wanted to happen (such as my husband died unexpectedly).

It has been a really tough time for me, but these two expect life to go on as it was for all. I am not the same person, and I really needed emotional support, which I did not get from them. I was very angry about their lack of sensitivity and other behaviors. When I stepped back and away, I was astonished to really understand how their behavior toward me has not changed at all. I just did not realize how toxic it was for me.

I miss the more frequent contact because I spoke to them often. Now, it is only at family events. I care, but not enough to go back. I have a much happier state of mind, even though I am still dealing with the same circumstances. I am not always "on" either, but honestly, as much as I love them, I cannot go back to that. As I said in another post, I want to be the leading lady in my own life from now on. :-)

Hugs,

Shar