Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
Hi.. ive just recently discovered.. im codependant.. Its causing issues in my relationship... and im trying so hard to help myself and better my ways without losing my Boy friend.. i know that sounds stupid.. but through all my issues hes the only one who has stayed to help me.. and that i feel i truly love.. but i try to hide my emotions from him if they will cause him pain or anger.. or basically any negative emotion... its driving me mad.. i feel awful like im breaking into a million pieces inside becuase i dont know which thought to listen to.. do i tell him how i feel or do i hide it again so i dont ruin his day.. part of my even bigger problem is that he went away to a trade school to help get a better job for our future and im so gratfull for that honestly.. but sometimes.. i just feel like it cuased more problems than its helping.. idk i just want someone to talk to thats not him for awhile so i can try to start the process and have him join in later you know?..
Melodie beattie its very alanon like. I suggust
therapy and attending coda/alanon Meetings.
There are a lot of good links on these threads,
Salina has posted many of them. Relationships
are where being a codie shows Up.
What was your upbringing like? Was there
Addictions, abuse, dysfunction, Narcissism,
Codependency? Many of us come From the
same types of homes.
Often our childhood developmental needs were not met
and we did not have healthy modeling from our Parents.
We have no idea we are enough or that we matter. In
recovery you need to reparent and retrain yourself and
its daunting. You Learn how to love and accept yourself
and know you are human and can make mistakes and
Can learn from them.
We learned to put others first and that is not the way its
suppose to be. It suppose to be God (higher power) then
You and everyone else afterward.
There are all levels of being a Codie, also many mental
health Issues come from being a codie and their level
of dysfunction and abuse Suffered As a child.
In a healthy mature relationship both people have self love
Onboard and both people have strong healthy boundaries
In place.
You can only fix and control yourself that is a real tough
One for a codie to do, to stop trying to fix and control the
Relationship and the other person. We are enough and
we Matter, HUGS