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Conversation with Ex-wife

hbgdaystar
hbgdaystar
Today his ex-wife contacted me finally and opened about my ex boyfriends lies and manipulations..... I feel so horrible to see how he betrayed me ... Part3 of the drama unfolds....

Part 1 I myself realizing,f there was something wrong and initiated to go to therapist
Part 2 was working on my codependency and staying No contact and making Boyfriend EX :-)
Part 3 The whole circle of lies and Betrayal to make you feel worse...
Past present and future buttons all opened again :-)

Need to work on shielding more....

Anything anyone can suggest to calm me down is much appreciated.
charliegirl29
charliegirl29
What is going to happen if you jusays ell yourself I'm not thinking of this bullshit today and I'm going to work on something that is going to bring me joy and make me feel calm. I just say take your focus to something pleasurable for you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Let it go...for a day at least. In my opinion, it's better to know the truth. This is something you can keep with you to remember WHY he's your ex...even if it wasn't the reason, you can use that to ease your mind anytime there is a 'why' in your mind. :) It will be okay, you will get through this, be strong! It's okay that you're bothered by it, that's normal, just don't let IT make you who you are. Take it as a lesson, move on with being a better, happier, fulfilled person for yourself!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi Friend,

It always hurts when our trust is betrayed, especially by someone we loved. You are in a better place now than when you started, even if you heard bad things recently.

As others have said, try to focus on self. You are a valuable person and you are worth taking care of.

Keeping you in prayers,

Shar
hbgdaystar
hbgdaystar
Thanks all for the replies. It definitely helped me to get over yesterday. I went to the gym with my journal sat in sauna room and wrote every feeling and diagnosed it within 20 mins i was able to recover better than i went back on to tread mill walked a mile while reading sandra brown - The dangerous men and laughed at myself on how i let this dangerous man in my life. Thank god for my stronger conscience i met a therapist met CoDA group and DS group.... I am doing fine... Grieving yes but handling better than yesterday.